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It’s been 9 days and I haven’t talked to him. He texted me today telling me he will be back in town from work tomorrow evening and he will come to grab some stuff ( remember he lived here). I responded with okay. But I want to call him and see if he is okay. I plan on not being here tomorrow when he arrives… I shouldn’t call him right? Obviously I know I shouldn’t. But I just want to. Is it that bad if I do?

I haven’t told many people the full story. I have one friend who knows it all and others who know parts. I have a solid support system. My family is great. I just sit here and know I did the right thing for Me but somehow it’s so hard. That is what break up are right, you think of all the good and struggle To accept that part is over. Being 34 next week I truly thought he was my person so I remain in shock and sadness. I can’t believe I have to start over. Thank you for responses. I appreciate them tremendously. Last time it took me 1.5 years to get over my Ex and fully ready to move On. Any advice would be amazing because I’m struggling.

Everyone is so brutally honest. I needed this. I broke up with him. I need to hear people say stuff like this to make me know I’m making the right decision.

Hi my boyfriend and I have been together 1.5 years. He is my person and someone that fits my life so perfectly. A big red flag was I could never go to his apartment. He said it wasn’t clean enough for me. He moved in in October. Also in October he broke down and told Me he lives in squalor and he can’t deal with it on his own like he thought and he needs my help. We went to his place and it was like nothing I have ever seen. It wasn’t technically hoarding because it wasn’t items, it was full of garbage and take out containers. Mold, rib bones, no path, no usable dishes. Imagine what you are thinking and make it worse. Mental health is in my background and I work in it so of course I had empathy and wanted to help make it better. We gutted the place and he has been slowly working to Reno it for a rental. We definitely had our hiccups with this. My trust was broken a little, he would still lie to me and say he got something done but didn’t. He was to seek counseling for his behaviors but without me pushing him he never did it. His appt isn’t until Feb 8… ok now fast forward to today. We were having a romantic night, hot tub. I was sitting beside him and he was googling something on his phone to show me but before he could, I saw a text that said hi hun. I immediately lost it and got out because he said it was nothing and got very awkward. He then confessed when we were out and settled… he has an addition to sexting sex workers for pleasure. So that is what it was. I got to read the messages and was disgusted. He even said that same day, hi hun can I call you. And he called her. He said she didn’t answer. The thing is, I believe him when he says he doesn’t physically see them it is strictly pleasure in Sexting but why the heck did you call her? He says they don’t talk dirty unless they think you are meeting up with them. My mind is going a mile a minute. I don’t think this is something I can get over. Texting is something that you can just erase from your phone and never get caught. He says his plan was to admit this to the counselor and see if she thought that he should tell me. I don’t want to lose him… but I think I have to right? I love him so much but how do we come back from all this?