Hello all,
I'll try and keep it short.
About a year ago (11/2020) I met this new colleague and as soon as we saw each other, there was something there. Even couple of days after we met, she already started texting me and inviting me for a coffee, even on the weekend, not just coffee breaks at work. Not every day/weekend, but quite often. And during our conversations, it was obvious that we liked each other and that we liked each other. She was married and has one child, but her marriage was not in a good state and it was only a matter of time before they divorced each other. I found about it sometimes during 4/2021 when we went out for few drinks with her friend, and she had a bit too much. She also admited that she was jelous if i was talkin to other girl colleagues and well... basically that she liked me more than just a colleage/friend.
After that, we continued hanging out and texting/talking as much as we could. During whole spring and summer, but we never did anythin more than that coz she was still married (it was during that time she was talkin about it with her husband but they never had a 100% decision on it). Sometimes during 10/2021, she and her husband finally decided that they were gonna get divorced. it was only after that, that we started taking our relationship a step further.
First romantic hug, first kiss, talking about our feelings and how we like spending time with each other and that were both falling in love etc. She was still married, but this time they decided 100% they were gonna split up.
The romantic part of our relationship didnt really last long. It was only after 3 weeks or so, that she decided she doesnt want to continue the romantic relationship with me. The reasons behind it were some "stupid stuff" I did in those 3 weeks (it was only 2-3 thing I did that could be held against a partner, but definitely NOT a reason to split up, and definitely NOT a reason to split after spending almost whole year "together").
Next few days I tried to convince her that her reasoning is "dumb" and that shes rushing in her decision, but alas, I was not able to. So I gave up. During those few days, she already started seeing some other guy. But after few more days we met for coffee and she said she dumped the guy, and that she doesnt want to be with anyone right now coz shes undergoing the divorce, and she needs to set up her life first before trying any new romantic relationships. To be honest, I do understand, and thats a smart decision.
Problem is.... after almost a year of us hanging out, we DID start something more, which ended as described above. Now she wants us to go back as it was before, but I just cant do it, coz I have feelings for her. Strong feelings that are more than friendship. I want her back (even tho I know its better for her not to try again with me, or with anyone).
What is the best thing to do in a situation like this? What would you do?