Bonaccorso_di_Novara

Pretty bad. About 2/3 profiles seem to be only to move traffic and subscribers to instagram accounts. The rest look like escort services usually.

Mine is not. Maybe those people who started experiencing internet as kids (I had it since I was about 14) are now in their 30s and they got used to use Internet as a tool for finding answers. In many countries current 30-something were the first generation to have computers as teenagers too thus we kinda grew up with them.

Actually I asked people here what apps are used for dating in the region, and nobody named anything beyond TInder. Maybe in places like Rome or Milano it's different but rural south is rural south. Anyway, at the moment my google play account is not yet considered Italian, but from my old country, and there those apps are unavailable. So I can't try them. Neither I can use paid services because I don't have plastic card that works in EU or USA (where payment processing of those services takes place).

I'm sorry, you really don't get the interests thing. It's not something that I ever chose, I always had them. At 5 I was reading books about medieval history and Roman conquests, now at 35 I'm writing them. Same stuff with everything else. I tried searching there on Tinder (the only app that seems to be alive here), same no result. If you mean physically being there, it's hard because of all the activities in current town, like work and volunteerings, and hobbies such as tabletop club (only males there, yeah).

It's 30k, with generation 20-40 being he smallest (many moved for work to the north or abroad). Not many singles but there are, though mostly males from my perspective. Dunno why. Some people who I know here married women from the northern cities (Rome, Milan) and then returned here. Options are not good as it seems.

Unfortunately never been in such kind of stuff. Of sports I liked fencing and kayaking, but latter is not really a team sport, and here it's only summer activity.

No single events as far as I know. I'm involved in volunteering with museums but it usually attracts older women, like late 40s and up. It's hard with joining those groups which don't interest me - I have aspergers, and while I'm pretty good in social interactions, "special interests" are really important for me. E.g. it's really hard to even pretend to be involved into something that is not part of them. For neurotipical people (not on autistic/aspergers spectre) their hobbies can be important but not major part of their lives, but for person in the spectre their special interesta are often most part of their life. I'm very happy that more or less I can be social in activities involving those for me.

I haven't been dating for a few years (and haven't been past first date for way longer) but now I wish finally to try once more because in fact I wish I was in relationships. I never was popular among women, and now I'm in middle 30s already so it's not becoming easier. But the biggest problem I see is even where to start? Definitely not wanna use online dating apps, had too little luck with them - almost all my dates were from other places. But now it seems hard to even find where could I meet single women close to my age group. I'm in southern Italy now, small town, but there are relatively big ones within 2 hours ride. By western standards people settle down rather early here. What likely won't work: - Meetup. It's dead in the region, almost nothing. - Sport clubs. Usually divided by gender. - Hobby clubs. I'm into history, reenactent, rpgs, larp, historical fencing and met lots of people related to those hobbies in the region; almsot exclusively men, and sometiems girlfriends of somebody. Never met a woman who is single there. - Volunteering. I do it, but again, usually meeting men (often age of my father and up) and marrried women.

Yes, I also think it's a good idea - voice calls, or video calls, and see her reaction in the meantime.

Thanks! Worth trying to do so.

We talk sometimes casually, just like you said - asking how is she, she always replies fast and friendly (but not always writes long replies), discussing various topics, from weather to local history, plans for holidays and so on. So at least we have those conversations going 🙂 Didn't do video calls yet (although we message in whatsapp sometimes too, and also in facebook - where she lives it's the most popular social network) but it seems like a very good idea to propose it. It can be a next step. If she refuses, then very likely she has no desire to move further with any relationships either, and at least I'll know it.

No mutual border between countries; two hours by plane. Restrictions are simple - even if you have valid tourist visa (and I have it), you can't enter, and neither embassy tells even approximate timing when will it resume - since May they keep saying "probably soon". Only limited business-related trips are allowed. Yeah, just telling about feelings out of thin air will be awkward. I espcially don't want to put her into such awkward situation. Likely we need to at least spend more online time together - chats, calls, and so on.

There is one woman, she's 31, I'm 34. We know each other for two years, mostly by mutual volunteering on same projects. Sometimes had more casual conversations too but not as often as I'd like too - we live in different countries (sic!) and due to lockdown and restricted travel didn't see each other for quite a while in person, but didn't stop mutual volunteering projects (where there are many other people too, not just we two - to give the full picture). I like her a lot to be honest, and it seems she also might have some feelings towards me, more than just to colleague. She didn't sound it straightforward (and her regional culture is pretty conservative (likely among the most conservative places of Europe), but some small actions, phrases, and so on - it really feels that I may be more than a colleague for her and more than a guy with similar interests. But I don't know how to tell to her about my feelings without putting her in awkward sutiation. Maybe you can give some suggestions?