Thank you for the advice. I need to spend some time figuring out what I really want in a relationship, maybe make a list of the things I want and what I can and can't compromise on.
I told him my mum was there for me when he ignored me for a week, after dumping me over the phone. He immediately said "I wouldn't want to worry that my wife is going to die if I leave her for a week, especially if her mum is not there to support her". I don't my future husband to disappear for a week without saying anything to me.
I don't want kids until I am feeling much better and I want my career sorted out first. I can't even look after myself properly now.
You are right. I wanted him to make the effort to drive to me, I wanted to dress up and go on date nights, I wanted him to at least book a table for my birthday, I wanted to call every few days in a long distance relationship, I wanted him to make plans too, I wanted him to be thoughtful like I was and I wanted him to compromise for me sometimes. There are so many things I wanted but I was afraid to be assertive and tell him about my needs in a relationship as he told me a few times I constantly ask him to do more for me and I put too much pressure on him, he would tell me he is working hard now so we can have a good future together. I am studying and working full time but I still wanted to have a good time and enjoy life together before marriage and children.
The moment I had a serious chat with him and told him I am unhappy and want to call each other more regularly and see each other more often, he said I am putting too much pressure on him and he broke up with me.