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Thank you, for advice on documenting everything never thought about that. We already sleep apart have done for quite sometime even before the incident, a mutual understanding I might add.

Yes, It's exactly that a male housewife (for want of a better word)

Thank you I'm not entirely sure I didn't feel in danger as it was two against one, so would seem to suggest a deeper routed issue, Issues that have been plaguing our relationship for at least a year, not willing to discuses them on an open forum, but haven't been intimate with each other for a year come October, (married life with children though)I will take advise onboard, and when she is open to a discussion, will try to and have that conversation. I do want to save our marriage but feel this was an excuse maybe she was looking for. I don't know, thank you.

I know drinking is an excuse, don't usually drink even at home, special occasions usually I did not intend to imply it as the reason for my actions, just a mitigating factor, and my wife had been drinking too. 'As a full grown adult & father, you should be in better control of yourself' That is why i suggested counselling for me at least to my wife, as a sign of my commitment to gain that self control

No unfortunately i don't I am a house husband, with no income whatso ever, thank you I feel you may be right unfortunately.

I do not like socialising to be honest, never really have, that has always been fine, after all its my wife hard earned money, I'm the house husband with no income that has been my role since we got together. You are correct in your assumptions though that it was one of her besties. In fact it was mainly her friends left at the event.

I intend too, I have already requested information from relate, and do give her the space to cool off, however that space is difficult to maintain whist still living together, Admittedly my wife is the bread winner so is at work all day, Maybe there is some resentments, I have never been one to socialise though.

Agreed, I cannot excuse my actions and never will. I except our marriage is over but just wanted a few opinions as to whether I should at least try to salvage it

I am not I am not glossing over anything, i have accepted what i did was the wrong thing am not blaming the drink in any way and its wasn't two women yelling it was my wife and a male friend (admittedly gay but has sweet fa to do with it) I suggested counselling for me as a means for my wife to understand i own my actions and willing tgo try what needs to be done to salvage our marriage.

es agreed I assume my wife feels it was an act of aggression rather than a defensive mechanism, we had both been drinking. Yes I'm a big guy and maybe don't know my own strength, yet doubt would have fallen if she'd not been drinking also. There was certainly no malice in my action or intent to harm. Things have never escalated to that level before, as I said we have only ever had a handful of arguments prior, which would always end in me, taking the dog out or just going for a walk to clear the air. In regards to arguing in public it has never happened as I have always been the house husband, so have only ever gone out as a couple on a few occasions, I might add that my wife does and always has been able to go out most weekends. Neither of us was driving, that's partly what the disagreement was about as she wanted me to get a taxi and take some stuff home while she stayed or came home later. Or at least that's how I saw it, also its should of been fair to assume id of walked home as that is what I usually do and said I wanted to do. I even walk with some of our children when we have visited parents, while she chooses to get a lift.

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I'm a 45 year old man I've been married for 15 years to my wife, We attended an engagement together, towards the end of the night we got into a row over getting home, My wife and her friend where yelling at me to do as they suggested, It ended with me pushing my wife away from me, not hard but enough to knock her of balance and fall, bear in mind we had both been drinking, but I have never layer a finger on her in all 15 years of marriage or 20 years of the relationship, we have had only a handful of arguments or disagreements in that time also . I tried to apologise to my wife as soon as I realized what i had done, but was escorted away. Upon leaving I also called her friend a not nice name as they both were still yelling at me. A few weeks have passed and still my wife will not talk or accept my apologises and has suggested we separate as feels can not forgive me anytime soon for the push or the name calling . I have tried written apologies and explanations, have suggested counselling, but it all seems to go nowhere. Should I just separate or keep trying to salvage our relationship and marriage, there are children involved so I know its going to be hard on them, if separation is the only answer.