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2 hours ago, MissCanuck said:

Out of curiosity, why haven't you become a couple after 8 months? 

Through conversation, he told me he wants to work o getting there with me: and told me he wanted to make sure we really got to knew eachother on a level of not just messing around like in undergrad. He dosent want to make the same mistakes hes made in previous relationships and he was figuing out/ going though a lot with trying to figure out if he wanted to go back to school again or trying to interview and try for a new job. 

5 minutes ago, Kwothe28 said:

I think I wrote it on some other thread before that I do find it quite silly. Because here you usually know when you "fool around"(FWB, just lovers etc) and when you are in a relationship and actually dating. I mean they date for 8 months and guy organized her birthday. If he after 8 months thinks that is casual just because she didnt asked and that he can go around then its more of a d i c k move from his side. Saying how he thought they are not exclusive wouldnt be good excuse anyway. Just my 2 cents on issue.

Anyway, OP, did he gave you any other reason to be jealous? Because casually glancing and seeing app is one thing but making a fake profile to check is way over the top reaction. Just having an app doesnt mean that much so its more about do you trust him or not. You dont from some reason.

In the sense of just him and I, he hasnt given ME a reason not to trust him. But as stated, I've known him from undergrad and he was for sure a "ladies man" in school. I try not to hold that against him because people can change and grow up...but its a time like this that those thoughts linger. 

15 minutes ago, smackie9 said:

Stop looking through or at his phone.

I wasnt trying to...we were laying together and he was showing me something......we were so close that there was literally no where else to look. 

On 8/25/2021 at 10:13 AM, smackie9 said:

Some people just assume they are exclusive, but why not just have that conversation..you had a few opportunities there to bring it up.

We've had the conversation. We arent seeing other people per the conversation

On 8/25/2021 at 3:17 AM, MissCanuck said:

OP, to clarify: are you in a relationship with him? 

Or just dating exclusively, but not actually a couple?

Dating exclusively 

Cuddling, hugging and touching, just to make sure the mood is light and intimate > Kissing and rubbing > Hands on foreplay (caressing and rubbing of genitals) > Oral sex, usually for both parties, but def for the woman to ensure arousal and that she isnt hurt or uncomfortable during penetration > then bring on the  sex!!! Some cuddles to wash it all down and some water to refresh.......*cue round 2*

Hey! I think for one you two should move from snapchat to a texting platform, that way when you talk, you get more than just pictures. Please dont do the ignore game, moving to text so she can be more vocal would help, but as a sensitive being- which she might or might not be, she might be saddened that you stopped replying. And I agree with the other reply. Don't just hang out...be intentional and take her places you want her to learn about that you like, and have her make some suggestions of her own. best of luck!! We love, love!!

2 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Relax. Perhaps your relationship is settling in when the wining and ding and butterflies moves more toward contentment. 

Do you think he's cheating or did seeing tinder on his phone  creep you out?

Good point...the honeymoon stage doesn't last forever I know. I've raised the topic of being exclusive to him and he did the same to me. One day we were at dinner and I was sending my mom a quick text and he blurted out, are you texting another dude...and like I said, I also let him know that he was the only person I was talking to and he said the same. It was the app on the phone that really spooked me. 

I've been dating this guy for about 8 months now. We went to undergrad together and we fooled around there, but nothing serious. In the past 8 months is when things have gotten serious. He made the grad gesture of totally setting up a wonderful birthday for me with candles, balloons, dinner a hotel and so much more. I as well made sure his birthday was just as great as mine was and we see each other very often. As of recently, I've been feeling a little bit uneasy...he has been going out more, which is fine and I don't have a problem with that. But I saw that he still had tinder on his phone. I knew he had it a while ago before things started picking up between the two of us, but I thought it had been deleted. I saw the app on his phone and confronted him about it. He said it was from when he first started using it and he hasnt met anyone on there and he wasn;t interested. He told me that with his schedule, he barely has time to talk to me, which he makes work, so there is no way he has time to talk to any other girls. I did make a fake account and combed through it and did not find his profile...but I feel so uneasy still....what should I do??