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Update for y’all - things are going great and will propose in next few months!

Update for y’all - things are going great and probably going to propose in next few months!

I have been in a relationship with my significant other for 3 months, and things have been going reasonably well, including being introduced to her family, but it is clear that I like her more than she likes me. This is evidenced by me messaging first (she will always reply), putting her more as a priority, and arranging all the dates we meet up. What should I do? a) break up - your relationship is doomed to fail b) continue doing what your doing! Girls love a reliable loving man! c) tone it down and give her space - give her time for her feelings to develop more d) other

Having emotions is not useful to the current situation, or currently conductive to logical rational thought, which is to be patient and wait it out.

Thank you all for replies...I think the take away message at the moment is to be patient, and to kill my emotions.

thank you for your thoughts. LOL yeah same workplace 😂- poor decision making hahahahaha She doesn’t have a medical condition. She doesn’t get sick very often...it’s just unlucky recently. I will give it some time :)

Thank you for your replies. Very interesting viewpoint. I essentially saw the situation as my emotional needs are not being met, rather than telling her to be more interested in me and I wanted to communicate that to her (which she appeared receptive to). In regards to whether she is "prioritizing this relationship to the same degree" that I am, to me, this remains to be seen... I will reconsider my position. Thank you for your reply. She is not on/off with someone. There is no concern regarding sexual harassment etc. I didn't think I was being controlling/possessive but will reconsider.

I agree I am being overly needy though its difficult to get time off together (we both work rosters) I agree 3 months is not a long time, but it's interesting to me that the first reaction is essentially "give up on her". Anyways, we spoke about it, and I told her to prioritize time together and she has agreed and to try to communicate in different ways...lmao

Hey guys, wanted to vent and thought of no better way than asking anonymous people on the internet for advice. Essentially, the question is - are my feelings valid, or whether my actions are being detrimental to the relationship (which I have a sneaking suspicion they may) About me - 31 years old, fairly successful at work, have been in 4 previous "serious" relationships lasting between 6 months to 1.5 years About her - 26 years old, also fairly successful at work, have been in a single 5 year relationship previously About us - We met at work and we work in the same department and directly work with each other, though under different chains of command. We are both professionals, and her job is somewhat of a support role to mine. Most of the people in her role now know about us but almost nobody in my role knows about us... We started seeing each other on "outings" about 8 months ago. 3 months into that, I told her I liked her, and we started "dating" exclusively for about 3 months, and then entered "into a relationship" after that (when she said her "real feelings" developed, which is actually quite a mature thing to do IMO...kinda sucked waiting for that long though). 1.5 months into our relationship, she has taken me home to meet her family. Since the beginning, we see each other about 2-3 times every 3 weeks, given our differing work schedules. Over the last month...I have seen her twice, and am feeling a bit disconnected (we do message everyday though) 3 weeks ago, we were supposed to go on a roadtrip, but she was sick and it was cancelled. 2 weeks ago, we met up and had dinner with her family. Last week we met up 2-3 hours before I had to work. This week we were going to go on a 2 day roadtrip (which got cancelled to 1 day, as she had a prior commitment (dinner) with a friend which she forgot about (which I'm okay with) but then now she is sick and the 1 day is cancelled. She is quite cold over messenger (just the way she communicates), and I don't feel like my emotional needs are being met, so I have asked her to prioritize more dates. Is this a valid thing to do, or am I being needy/overbearing?