Gringo79

Yes, I know there are many good latin american men also and my comments are stereotypical. I think my biggest concern is am I choosing not to see huge red flags because I'm emotionally attached at the moment. I've heard all the relationships schemes out there, which are real, but this one doesn't fit the case...she's not asking for anything (yet), isn't trying to get to the US. She just seems like a single mother who is looking for someone dependable and loving to work at life with someone and not on her own.

hahaha...not Colombia

I agree with you 100%...there's only so far it can go over the phone and quickly loses momentum once burned out from the same texts and videos.

Yeah, I mean I would love to visit her country, I've always wanted to even before I met her so it would be sort of a win-win potentially but I don't want to end up being robbed ... or worse. But in all sincerity, she's is either genuinely honest or is very good at deception. The more I learn about her, she seems very honest. I really can't call her out on anything at this point.

Fortunately things are fairly normalized where I am at. I asked her about it and in their city things are opening back up as people are getting vaccinated. But yeah, it'll be a few months if I even decide to travel there and I think she understands that.

Yes, I agree 100%

Thank you, that was very spot on. And wow, yeah I didn't give too much thought about the virus potential!

Thank you...I truly appreciate your thoughts. And you are 100% accurate.

I cannot disagree with you.

Yes, I agree, part of my mind is definitely suspicious. But so far I don't see anything where she might be caught up with some bad scheme. She works at an international airport 60 hours a week, she is un uniform like all the other people you see at an airport dressed up nicely. So from her appearance or her presentation, she's just like any other average good working person of society.

I agree with you 100%. Before I met this girl, I had been planning on moving south, like FL. But also really liked the idea of living in a latin american country. Either way I've already told her it would be a while before I would consider visiting her because I do want to learn more Spanish, get some things done here in the US, etc...so maybe I might entertain a 3-day vacation/trip to see what she is about. I don't have relatives or really any other friends who are willing to go on a vaction otherwise, so why not go somewhere I've always wanted to visit where there is someone willing to meet me and show me her country for a few days. Those are my thoughts anyway.

Yes, I understand where you're coming from and how my situation sounds. Yes, I am attracted to latina women, but I also love all women. I'm purely basing this instance with the idea that I think this girl is beautiful to me, and from what she is saying she has a beautiful heart/soul and have developed feelings for her. I've only been reading about the "stereotypes" since after meeting her because I'm trying to figure out why she would want a gringo like me, what her culture is like, or something to help decide which way my gut feeling should go. However, I did go on a date a few months ago with a mexican latina who grew up in TX but lives in my state. Somehow the topic came up and she insisted will NEVER date a hispanic man because of "how they are" which I've heard and read about a number of times from other latina's

HAHA good point and also in consideration...I virtually had my bags packed to move south to FL, then Covid hit and killed the industry I'm working in, it's rebounding but stalled. So while the world was on lockdown I go onto a Latin Only dating website thinking I would potentially find someone to meet and likely they might want to move to the US. Likewise, I've always wanted to travel to latin countries so it seemed like it could be an opportunity. Well, I can't help that I developed feelings for this girl after talking with her for a month to find out she may not want to move to the US. Which might be fine, South America is getting better and more developed, and if I could find stable work in one of those countries and learn to speak the language, I would have no trouble relocating.

No, I see women as 100% equal

Also good point. I'm told that many men in latin america are too masculine, cheat often, and don't work. Likelwise, I've read that Latin women like American men because they are more passionate. I realize all this is stereotypical but this is what I'm researching...

I can't disagree with you there. I asked her if she wants to move to the US and she didn't seem that interested even though her brother lives in PA. She currently lives with her mom, which I hear in many Latin countries living with immediate relatives is very common. I'm at a point in my life where I would consider moving to her country if I could find work and I enjoyed being there with her.

She's on the equator, I'm in the midwest US. LOL I'd love to be with a Latina...they just strike me as being the kind of woman for me. Likewise, I would never say any other woman of any other ethnicity would not be of interest to me. I wish she wasn't so far away, but it is what it is.

I've had a video call with her so I can definitely tell it is her. I have a genuine interest in meeting her and possibly moving to her country if she is legit.

Members 0 2 posts Author Posted just now I'm gut instinct is 50/50 but I've been wrong on my instincts a number of times, better or worse. I live in a relatively small town and there's really no one I'm interested here so I've reached out to online dating a number of times. I've gone on some dates but none thrilled me. I've also always had a thing for Hispanic women and culture. I believe, for the most part, latinas are more passionate and do not care as much about materialistic things, they love deeply and family is their number one priority. I don't mean to stereotype or that all latinas are this way, but statistically it seems to be more than plausible.

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I have been chatting with a girl from South America for over a month. We’ve exchanged photos, a video chat, tells me many details about her personal life such as work, what she is doing with her kids, etc. She asks how I am doing, and many times is first to say "Good Morning". We are also Facebook friends and I see that she is very open about her faith in God. I can legitimately say she is who she says she is. She has a decent job in sales/customer service. She wants me to come visit her, which eventually I'm willing to do, but I told her I want to learn more Spanish first. The part throwing me off is for about the past week she’s saying that she loves me very much, she's very affectionate, and I'm feeding into it. In the back of my mind I'm thinking, “we haven't even met yet” although we have shared photos, video, recipes (lol), and our beliefs. She is 32 years old and incredibly beautiful, where as if I were to rate myself I would honestly put myself at a 5.5 (maybe 6) out of 10…I probably have lower self-assessment than in reality, many people do, but I am 10 years older than her. I also have a tendency to be cynical towards others, but given the situation, I would say (partially) rightly so. The other thing is she asks me questions about myself, but not to the extend I would think someone who is genuinely interested would be asking. I would say 50% of our conversations are simply expressing emotional feelings back and forth. She has never asked for anything other than she hopes I will come to see her. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.