scorchio

Hi all,

its been about 10 months now since my break up with ex.

about 8 and a bit months N/C

I have got tremendously stronger, very.

and things are getting slowly better.

I still have thoughts of her but can more easily put them away somewhere in my mind hidden, than i could before

my question's are these:

1)how do i get through valentines day this year so close upon us now

2)And last year me and ex had a very very special valentines together, do u think she would so easily forget that and it will be in the back of her mind somewhere come valentines, whatever her circumstance.

thanks

I almost get the impression from most posts, its like the ex (dumper) has a hidden radar or sixth sense that you have moved on or forgetting about them just a little bit, i.e they dont have that control anymore,

thats when that call text or email then appears out of blue

Hi All,

Time and time again, we here it ALL THE TIME, especially on this forum, But also generally in life, I know of friends this has happenned to, the ex contacts them when they least expect it.

People always tended to get contacted by their EX (the dumper) when they are least expecting it....... Out of the Blue etc

Just wanted to know,

Can anyone offer up any reasons why it happens like that ?????

Regards

together for just under 2yrs

a good relationship, hardly many arguments

got on well with her kid and treated them both very well

Hi all,

I need some advice.

Been split up for about 8 1/2months, me doing N/C for about 3 and a bit months. nothing from her since split, but she always was very stubbourn, and im sure that has alot to do with the silence.

so here I am at,

I miss her and her daughter still very much, the N/C has made me stronger, it has helped alot, but my mind is doing Overtime, who she is with, if at all etc.

I still crave for that text or email out of blue ........... who knows, but I really wish for that.

my main question is !

where do I go from here? still strong feelings for her and her daughter, the N/C is helping yes. But! I dunno miss them like crazy.

silence from her. Can things still change?

been split for 8months, NC for 3 and a bit months, nothing the whole time from her (although she always was stubbourn)

Ive been so good at N/C,

although It hurts like hell again and again but I have been good.

but .......................

my birthday on Sunday just gone, no card from her (by the way)

its XMAS

I just feel soooo weak, want to just tell her I miss her etc,

has she forgotten about me, thats what im worried about

just silence from her since split

hurts like hell

was such a good relationship with very few arguments or fallings out

im worried im gonna break N/C, I miss her and her daughter

is she missing me !!!!!! its xmas that must stur some feelings !!!

great post,

can I ask, do you think by us continuing to be strong at xmas and new year could be more of a surprise to our ex's that we havent crumbled make them think a bit deep down .......... you never know !!!

heres keeping strong ..............

maybe one day our ex's maybe typing or thinking exactly the same ......

Hi all,

been split up for 8 and a bit months now,

Ive been doing N/C for about 3months (even though no contact from her for the 8months) she always was the stubborn type LOL

I have been doing well with the N/C for me etc

I really miss her and her daughter though................ lots ! wish for that text out of blue !

I feel sad at momement though !!!

Its my birthday tomorrow ! no card from her !

christmas next week !

do u think she is deep down remembering these aniversaries and maybe just maybe hurting a little !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi All,

Ive been doing so well with the N/C

split up for 8 months, N/C for about 4months, nothing from her since we split (even tho she was always a stubborn person)

I was doing so well with N/C, got stronger, yeah!! miss her and her daughter like crazy.. but! been stronger in getting on with things meeting people, thinking theres more to life than just her even though I would still love that text or Email out of the blue reallyn would, even though I dont know how I would react to that!!!!!

BUT!!!

Its just hit me tonight for some reason, what is she doing ? who is she with, if at all, is she missing me ? thinking about me ?

do they still think about us !! do they still miss us!!!!

do they still have regrets !!!!!!!!!!!

sorry ! had to just get this off my chest

Hi all,

I have been split from my ex now for about 8months, N/C for about 4months, which has helped me alot

I still wish that text, or email would come out of blue, although I must be improving as I am not looking at my phone as much!!!!

Should I send her a xmas card - or would that show her that I am still pining for her........

I would love the day she contacts me! I do love her and her daughter still, and no d\tes since have even came close to what I felt for her.

can it take a long time ??

I am strong now, and if she doesent I am more ready to tell myself its her loss etc

do they regret there decisions though !!!

anyone has had experience of ex's regretting dumping the person, and does it take a long time ?

Kostners,

all the advice that you have been given I would so agree, even though im the worst for taking that all on board myself.

However what I will say to you is ..........

Your story is so similar to mine, as in the time was together, the time we split up and MOST definitely the emotions that I am still feeling

8-9months later.

so all I can I say if it helps is ....... You are not alone

well done echo, stay strong echo

I wish emotionaly I could be as strong as you

I miss her like crazy, trying to stop myself thinking who she might be with etc etc bla bla lol

sometimes works sometimes doesent

Thanks regret

a great post as ever

ive been split from ex 7months now trying to keep strong

about 2-2 1/2months N/C, helping me, hopefully one day may make her think too

Regret fantastic post

thankyou

been split from my ex 7 1/2mnths and N/C for about 3months

I wonder is this all too long gone by

worry that may be she has forgot me or maybe dating again (not that i know that)

N/C is helping me loads i hope maybe later on has an effect on her too maybe one day

Tallie,

I feel for you,

and I know how you feel. im 7months on from the split and im feeling scared if she has met someone, she may not, who knows!! hope not!!

Echo thanks,

They are great words of advice for me,

YES u are right ! they probably are more screwed up than we imagine

thankyou so much

I'll keep u posted on the good days and help on the bad ones

x

hi echo, im glad u feeling good

proud of you

I too am OK with the N/C at mo

just cannot get the thoughts out of my head is she with anyone ? or not ?

what she doing ?

making up silly scenarios wot she is doing, when probably not true.....

any advice

x

Thankyou,

yes i am trying to get those thoughts out of my head

sooooo hard

Hopefully she maybe wondering the same what I am doing who i am with

well at least it will make it easier for me lol

nice to think that though

Thats what annoys me, these thoughts of who she might be with or what she is doing !!! when maybe the thoughts i have are SO TOTALLY WRONG and im hurting myself for false thoughts

does that make sense lol

its silly isnt it !

we make up these silly scenarios in head,

who she with, what she doing etc,

waisting time with these when they may not be true,

hope they are doing the same at some point

Been split up 6 1/2months now, N/C for about dunno lost track lol about 2 months i think....

I have been quite strong as far as N/C goes, its been hard, but getting there with N/C....

still miss my ex and her daughter loads

main point is

I keep on and keep on getting thoughts and making up silly scenarios in my head who she with, if anyone, wot she doing bla bla bla etc

this is hurting

do they maybe think the same (the dunmpers) ? same thoughts !

we the dumpees suffer in that sense, but maybe the dumpers do just as much maybe !!!!!!

I have been doing SO well with N/C helped me alot,

still cant denie want that text or call out of blue etc etc

I have been quite strong 6months on from split, N/C about 4months

still would like to get back with her etc etc but stronger and more positive about dealing with it (i think LOl)

JUST FEEL SO SO down tonight,

miss her and her daughter so much

x

anyone

KIND WORDS X

thankyou Melrich

WISH U WAS HERE by the way (your quote / lyrics)

Pink Floyd fan too

hi ya Echo

nice to hear from u as ever hope u are well

I am considering other things now .... promise

but doesent mean 1 day she may contact,

that was the point of the post

if that does happen, and she tries to contact, no mobile phone number that she always had available.........

do u see my point

I do still love her and her daughter very much

been split for 6months

n/c 3months

mobile number only just changed tho

im much stronger now,

N/C helping me alot. etc

main question is

my mobile number has changed since split new mob phone etc

if she really wanted to get in contact ...... do u think she would find a way

its not a question as in holding onto hope etc.....

just a thought, if she wanted to get in contact she might think im ignoring her !!!!!!

as no response

any views on that

or experience of they will find a way to get in contact !!!!!