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  1. thanks, sometimes I still feel down and have the same fears. But do whatever I can to make myself more sociable
  2. Well its been a while since I posted on here. During Christmas I managed to chat to a girl online from Match. We went on a couple of dates, the chemistry wasn't there. On the third date she asked if we could just be friends. I was saddened to start with, but accepted it. We still keep in touch & sometimes join socials. I've tried to be more social this year & have joined more groups. I've also joined some societies within University. It was tough to start off with, especially at my age being in my 40s it can feel like Impostor Syndrome. I've made some friends with girls, and even though I'm too old to date them (old enough to be their dad), I felt it did give me confidence to talk to girls more often. I've gone on some socials outside university & even went to a singles night. I did try to approach women there thinking that they are in the same situation as me. Sadly though I didn't get any matches.
  3. Thats a good idea. The problem is whenever I see a girl I mentally freeze and have no clue what to say. I experienced this the other night going to a club. Toastmasters sounds interesting & have signed up to Meetup groups. My problem is whenever I see couples together I feel jealous and regretful. Finding love is something I've wanted all my life. I might consider therapy - to help me focus on things other than relationships. Being single over Christmas & New Year isn't nice at all. Another possibility would be to speak to a dating coach. The problem is both options are expensive. Does anyone know any websites or You Tube Channels that may help me out (something that doesn't involve spending too much money, have to budget being a student)
  4. I think its the same with lots of other dating sites. Girls seem to get 100s of messages every day. I remember 'Girls date for Free' back in the 2000s not sure what happened to that. After my diagnosis I was entitled to free counseling from the NHS & they do courses in regards to social skills (free of charge). I've signed up but they seem to be taking their time. I could go private but that could be too costly for me
  5. Well I am in University & trying to do something about it. The lockdown made me to re-evaluate my life. Once I am out I will look for a better career. Believe me I don't want to be housesharing forever. My flatmate (same boat as me) doesn't seem to have this problem getting matches on Tinder. Are you in the UK by any chance?
  6. I will join more groups, but building confidence isn't going to be easy overnight
  7. Divorcees yes, but preferably not with children
  8. Ideally I would like to have children myself someday
  9. Yes but they are either married or engaged. They have given me advice in regards to my dating profile, I've asked them if they knew anyone suited for me & was told that they were not suitable. Asking fellow students sounds a bit creepy doesn't it?
  10. I house share with other people. I could easily budget to take her out on a date. There are volunteering groups & societies within the University that I'm interested in attending (not to pick up women as age difference), as interested in some subjects. However for people around my age it would probably be a group outside of University
  11. I'm not ruling it out. As far as I know the more you pay, the more likely you are going to find someone serious, as it eliminates the p***-takers right? I'm back in University, so living on Student income 😔. Here in the UK, we are dealing with the triple whammy of Brexit, Post-Covid recovery & war in Ukraine causing extremely high bills, so having to economise. Not sure if the US is any different. I've spent quite a lot on Match in the past, normally you can cancel & renew at about £5 a month. I would do Eharmony but its a risk if I don't get anything out of it.
  12. No I can. But I can only imagine ones such as eHarmony or Match Affinity are too expensive (maybe I'm wrong)
  13. I am not limiting myself to classmates, they are far too young for me. I have some close friends around my age but are all married in engaged. My last relationship was before the pandemic which was around 3 months.
  14. I'm not, the majority of girls I'm around are in their early 20s as in Uni. I'm looking at girls between mid-30s and 40s.
  15. I've also used PoF but never had any success on it. Some people have recommended Hinge, which does seem a bit more professional than Tinder or PoF. I have considered the more expensive sites like Eharmony, but also have to think about my finances, being a student. There are a few societies I am interested in joining at University, but I would feel out of place at my age, even if just looking for friends. Meetup groups could be a possibility. attractive to girls in their 20s/30s?
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