PFf, I wrote this big story before accidentaly deleting it.
We were together for 4 years, broke up for 6 months and are now back together for 6 months and happier than ever. In the 6 months apart there was 1 month of a bit of texting, 2 months of NC and 3 months of seeing each other once a week as friends. At the end of these 3 months I was to one to contact him to ask to see each other more again.
I think some of the reasons that we succesfully got back together are:
- The problems in the relationship were fixable
- During the break we (independently) reflected on the relationship and on our OWN mistakes instead of just the ones the other person made
- We (independently) worked on fixing the problems, not for the other person but for ourselves
- (partly thanks to this thread) I realized I would be okay with or without him, in the end what happens happens.
- We talked. A lot. About our fears and insecurities in the new relationship. How we could prevent things from happening, how we could compromise etc etc.
- We got to slowly get to know/like each other again as friends.
Getting back together really does happen!
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PFf, I wrote this big story before accidentaly deleting it.
We were together for 4 years, broke up for 6 months and are now back together for 6 months and happier than ever. In the 6 months apart there was 1 month of a bit of texting, 2 months of NC and 3 months of seeing each other once a week as friends. At the end of these 3 months I was to one to contact him to ask to see each other more again.
I think some of the reasons that we succesfully got back together are:
- The problems in the relationship were fixable
- During the break we (independently) reflected on the relationship and on our OWN mistakes instead of just the ones the other person made
- We (independently) worked on fixing the problems, not for the other person but for ourselves
- (partly thanks to this thread) I realized I would be okay with or without him, in the end what happens happens.
- We talked. A lot. About our fears and insecurities in the new relationship. How we could prevent things from happening, how we could compromise etc etc.
- We got to slowly get to know/like each other again as friends.