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You've raised many more valid points. I'm not 100% sure where she stand with kids in general. I know that when she's around annoying, bratty kids, she tends to get edgy and agitated. On the other hand, when she sees a cute, well behaved child., she seems radiant.

We haven't discussed having kids much. I obviously need to talk to her at length about a great many things regarding this.

I suppose overall, my biggest fear is being put in a situation where I feel like I haqve to choose between them. If it comes to that, I know what I have to do, but I absolutely dread it.

But, before it comes to that, I will certainly try what you suggest and see if any progress can be made.

Thanks for the response. I think your assesment of the situation is pretty much dead on. Unfortunately, my gf has not been overly revealing in exactly how she feels about all of this. Basically, she just acts as if my daughter doesn't exist, and when she is then reminded she gets quiet, snippy, and even drops subtle hints that perhaps this is not the relationship for her.

I would love for my gf to spend time with both me and my daughter. It has happened a few times, but again, that is in the course of over three years! I'm just not sure what to do if she totally rejects the idea of being a part of my daughter's life.

In a nutshell: I've been living with my girlfriend for a little over three years now. She still has not come to terms with the fact that I have a daughter from a previous relationship. I'm 26, my gf is 25, and my daughter is 5. Now, I know this question may sound hopelessly naive, but what can I do to try make her understand my position on this? I hate giving ultimatums, but I feel I have no choice anymore.