Saabman

Thanks for all your replies and advice. I guess, like probably always, I’ve overthought things. I love my GF… and that’s the thing. For the very first time in my life, I’m in love so much, I feel sick thinking of her with another man. This man in particular. It was a sex only kind of relationship. I found out last night that the host thought about it and wanted to be considerate so the ex was deliberately not invited. The party is on Friday. Problem gone, but I know that one day I’ll bump into him. I’ll be mature, pleasant and kind. I guess too, that I was in a bit of a dilemma as to whether to go to the party if he was there. I have been so thoughtful as to not to expose my Gf to my ex, I just thought that she would share my considerations. But you are right.. she has no right to dictate who goes to someone else’s party. I’m just a forewarned and forearmed kind of guy!

Hello All, Quite a quick question really - if you were invited to a party by your girlfriend that was being hosted by her friend, would you expect her to check out first with the host if an ex of hers was attending was attending? If you attended the party and you were not told an ex was there and you found out later, would you be annoyed?

Again, thank you for your replies. We had a good heart to heart last night and she was honest enough to say that it was the friendship group she meets in the pub that was the issue. They are pretty heavy drinkers and loud. Sometimes vulgar and full of banter. It wasn’t the group she wishes to be associated with, just an occasional release now and again. She goes to meet her brother, so feels safe and he looks out for her. I do trust her. And believe her. I have to… a relationship without trust is nothing. She said that she wouldn’t go if it caused me anguish but I’m not that possessive. So…. She felt that this particular group would reflect badly on her, but offered to take me for a taster night but warned me to release my inner scaffolder and give as good as I get! We are both professionals in our chosen fields, but I didn’t realise her brother was in the group. I’ll probably give it a go one day, but to conclude, it appears there is nothing sinister going on.

Thankyou all. Sincerely…. Thankyou. You have each echoed my thoughts and I’m not going mad. ive just called to say I want to meet for a beer after work tomorrow. I’ll let you know what happens to conclude the thread.

May I ask your advice, ladies. My beautiful parter of 18 months, who I adore, occasionally likes to go out on a Friday night to a specific pub. She is absolutely adamant that I’m not permitted to go on a Friday…. She says I’ll hate it. It’s busy and rammed with men. I’m very welcome to go any other night, but not a Friday. I asked her if there was an ex or anyone specific she doesn’t want me to meet, but she says no. she says all the guys there have been regulars for years and know her well and I’ll just feel left out. We are just about to buy a house together but this subject is nagging at me and my gut feeling is that something is up, but I don’t know why. I think it’s the look of horror on her face when I say I’m going to turn up one Friday. I’m not at all possessive but what has been a joke in the past is now eating away at me. Am I being unreasonable? I’ve chatted it through with her and aired my concerns, saying that I’m worried that a drunken bloke may try it on, but the response was simply that she didn’t want to lie to me and say she’s going somewhere else. Im not going to stop her, or make an issue of it, but I have to say it’s eating me up inside.