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2 minutes ago, Batya33 said:

The purpose of the initial dinner was a platonic catch up. I'm pretty sure when he asked me to meet up he still had a girlfriend - but they'd broken up before we got back together. I think he emailed me probably May or June to tell me when he'd be in town and we had dinner in July. Then 2 more platonic meet ups over the next month. Then on the third he asked me to get back together so we could see if this time we should marry. And I said yes.

I was in a number of serious committed relationships. The first person I ever lived with was my husband. Living on my own had no relevance to the seriousness of the commitment.

thank you..  I really appreciate this...  how exactly did he ask for that dinner?  

ok folks.. let me be clear.. she is not in a big time committed relationship... she lives on her own. 

This post was meant to hear from folks who got back together after a long break,, just looking for some feel good stories

11 minutes ago, Batya33 said:

We did -we are 57 now. We were engaged and got back together 7 years later -almost 8. We got married a couple of years after that and have been married 15 years. We had a relatively amicable break up - no drama, no cheating -more about right people wrong time. Our family and friends were incredibly supportive. We got together for a catch up dinner, as friends - had seen each other once in 7 years, emailed a few times a year. We were both single, never married, no kids. We decided a month later to get back together and decided what that meant. So far so good! Our story I believe is unusual.

how long from first contact to that initial dinner? I am 2.5 months into this and no meeting has been set.

15 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Do you live near each other? Were you connected on social media? What inspired you to reach out? Is she single or available? Why not suggest getting together casually to catch up and reacquaint yourselves?

she does not do social media, she is very private.  I reached out because I have finally become the man I wanted to be.  No she is not single, but even she admits it is not true love. I have suggested to get together to catch up.  so far all communication is email and a few handwritten letters I sent her. It has only been 3 months since I started started the contact. 

basically I failed to support us and we were not making it financially.  I was just a mess at that time.  I am 100% better now and that is why I am trying for a make up now.. . just looking for folks who got it together after years apart

I am 57 year old professional guy, she is 55. We were engaged and broke up 7 years ago. After no contact for 7 years I reached out 3 months ago to make amends and try to establish communication. So far it has been well received but no face to face and all communication thru email.

I would love to hear from men or women who got it back together after a long break. I guess I am looking for some hope that it really does happen sometimes for folks.