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So today i asked her and she said "i dont think we meshed well or match" lol Another one for the books

Im tired of saying it years ago i just made up ages. These are our real ages. What is so difficult here

I was going to see if she wants to go out again this weekend and that i would think would give me my answer, but since we went out the last 2 weekends maybe ill skip a weekend just to give us a little break from it. We watched a movie on saturday this weekend when i went to her dorm and she didnt get close or hint towards wanting to be held or anything i thought i mentioned that maybe not. At this point im kind of just sitting here, if there's a chance then good if not then im sure she'll stop going out if she doesnt want to

I'm sorry about the misunderstanding. Are you older or when was this? Like i said between friends, friends of friends, and my past dates everyone at the very least shows some sort of flirting or kissing at some point i feel like months waiting is crazy but if it means at the end of it something may happen like in your situation then great. Im not forcing anything and risking damaging anything, im just sitting here being patient

Thank you a lot for that, i really wasn't sure how to go about this. I want to let her take it slow and everything but I've also had people tell me that I need to make a move so it's kind of like a 50/50 shot you know? So you think maybe give it till the 4th date and if she still isnt showing any kind of progress there probably wont be anything more coming from this?

Correct nothing has happened i was just asking you guys if you had any experience with this in your lives and wondering what results from it. Like is there a chance at a relationship from this and does this go on for months? That's what i was trying to ask Im just not used to this at all so i was worried if this is a waste of time or what

I hope you're speaking in general cause I've said it many times in this post i have not made any advancements at all except a short quick kiss after the first date then that was it. I did not ask her to go to her dorm. SHE asked ME to without even asking so i was in no way shape or form hinting at sexual contact She just started contacting me again today so idk what that was about. Ill see if she wants to set up a 3rd date. It's been mutual, we both reach out to eachother honestly she does more often if i dont respond right away

No ahead of time that im 22 and shes 18, just that im older It just feels better idk how people dont see that. If you like someone and into them more than just a friend then you kiss them. It just almost hurts when someone doesnt I like them both equally for different reasons as stated which is really hard. Im going out with the 21 yr old this weekend again. The 18 year old has been starting to contact me again today so idk if she wants to continue and idk if i should even ask her. Do you think its smart to bring it up like "hey what are we doing" or?

Anyways it looks like all of that was wrong because she's been ghosting me now the past 2 days lol for who knows what reason nothing even happened differently between date 1 and 2

She knew ahead of time is what im saying, we also went out together for 3 hours. She then proceeded to invite me to her dorm the following weekend as a "2nd date". I never once hinted as sex, never once talked about it. Never talked about anything at all. Yes i do actually. That what happens about 90% of the time. How can you think it doesn't at least "certify" that someone is into you

Can you stop? I told you and you're not listening can we stay on topic? It's funny how i asked the simplest question "what does taking it slow mean, what does it mean when someone doesnt kiss you or show any kind of affection" since ive never really seen this before. And everyone is going off on all kinds of different things complicating it

These posts are actually getting funny now. Who said im acting too fast? I've done absolutely nothing. Ive been just going out with her talking, watching movies, have done nothing but hugged her. Never made any advance, never asked her about anything. Ive been completely "slow" about it so idk where anyone is making these assumptions or how. Since we're on an anonymous online forum im just asking other people what they think about it. Why is this so hard to understand?

Well to put it in perspective she seems to be have ghosting me all day today but we'll see tomorrow what happens! Like we had a great time last night, she texted me last night and this morning then started leaving on read all this afternoon and tonight so who knows how im supposed to react? It's funny cause i went on another date tonight with someone great as well and they couldnt stop kissing me. It doesnt change anything about how i view them or why i stick around. Kissing to me just makes our bond even stronger. We had great conversation and get along really well and kissing doesnt make or break anything it just helps it. The girl i just went out with tonight was 21. Its funny how you can go out with every person in the state and never have had 1 single relationship like how

What i said in this post, 22 Did you even read anything? We met online, we went out last week for 3 hours, and she made plans this weekend to invite me to her dorm without me even asking 😂. If any of that made sense how would someone do that. You're making so many assumptions. I've matched her energy completely, nothing has been "someone being wrapped around someone's finger" nor have i done anything at all for her to think that, unless she's on this forum? She's seemed really genuine, if anything shes after me way more than im after her

The one currently is correct, 22 idk why or how they even got the other stuff from it's not relevant to this or i would've said otherwise lol. How old are you like when did you guys start dating and everything because that sounds way out of the norm. Now people do things relatively quickly. Not that kissing should be considered rushing something it's just a display of interest and affection

It's not that i care either way i just wasnt sure what kind of message i was supposed to get from that. To me it feels like she isn't serious about it

I'm not do you really think an 18 year old would date someone older like that? Idk maybe they would but for our actual ages she's even told me she's much more mature than her age on our first date when we talked about it. She said she doesnt like how other 18 year olds act and that they arent mature enough for her so she dates older

But what is dating to you? It's not even that big of a difference to me at least, i dont really care if you're 18, 23, or 26 Those werent really the ages i didnt want to put the actual ages

So then by your experience, what happens usually? I'm just to the point where Im tired of going out on a couple dates and never getting to relationship stage so how does it usually go for you?

I really like her and it hurts going out and not progressing at all. I'm just really confused by what vibe she's trying to give out. Im not asking for sex at all, like i said personally i dont have sex for a while. But not kissing, holding hands, flirting just feels like there's no romance at all

Im not asking about sex just anything at all. Not kissing, not holding hands, no flirting, nothing physical at all just makes it feel like a hang out session

Have you ever heard of someone doing this and what exactly does "slow" mean?

I get she said that and i never expect to have sex the first couple dates like i said. But it doesnt seem like anyone else i know does what she's doing. She isn't physical at all and doesn't even kiss, again I've never seen that so that's why I'm worried. What am i supposed to do, ask her? But i dont want to ask her cause that seems pressuring/pushy

I am a 22 (M) seeing 18 (F). We met online and have been talking a lot. I've been on a lot of dates at this point and i cant really recall a time where we didnt kiss after the first date and every date. Our first date went great, we talked for like 3 hours and had a great time. Right after the first date she was saying all the things we should do and made plans the following weekend without me even asking. After the first date the kiss kind of felt forced since i always want to show my interest in them by kissing after but she only did a quick kiss and then left, didnt really feel like she wanted to that much. So we've still been talking the same amount as we've been, every day we text all day. She asked me to come over to her college dorm this weekend for a 2nd date again without me even asking. But what she said was "just letting you know i want to take this slow, so no sex right now." Im not really sure what she ment by that. So i went to her place this weekend and we were there for like 4 hours and had a great tine. After this date we didnt really kiss at all. But yet again still talking Does anyone know why she seems really interested but doesnt do anything physically intimate or affectionate?