Cyclinggirl27

Thank you for your answer: I'm 34, he's 36. I actually ended it in December because I felt exhausted and overwhelmed. I'm really giving it another go and want to try an navigate this but it's not easy. ^_^

Thank you for your help: of course he's welcome to spend time with me and my mom and I often invite him to do so but he complains we don't get enough time alone. We have Friday, Friday night and most of saturday and saturday night plus Tuesday/Tuesday night so, to me, that's a fair chunk of time. My BF is very much a dog person so no problem there and I feel I have made a concession in that they're banned from upstairs when he's over. It does have to be slightly scheduled as we live an hour apart from each other, we can't just drop in. I hear you though, so thank you ❤️

My BF (36M) and I currently live apart due to work and family commitments. Thus, we see each other on weekends and during the week for dinner. He repeatedly says that this is not enough time for him to spend with me but I'm note sure what else I can do right now. I value the time itself because it is entirely focused on each other but he would like more of it. I have tried to discuss this with him three times not but he won't have it. I run my own business, am a carer for my ageing mother and also have two dogs. My work means I work from 9am to anywhere between 8-10pm some nights. I have made concessions and stopped working on both Tuesday and Saturday afternoons and evenings so I can spend time with my BF. Between this, I also have to make time to prepare work for my job, care for my mother and dogs and make time for my friends. I have set very clear boundaries that, right now, this is what I can give but I know he's not happy. We briefly split up over this in Dec/Jan and I've tried hard to remedy this the best I can but I feel like I'm burning out and disappointing him. We have been together just over two years. Has anyone else been through this and if so, how did you find a better balance?