Thank you for your feedback on my comment. Yes it is strange, its been a few months on and on a random day I can get these thoughts and feelings when they are unwelcome but I understand to embrace them and to feel them is what is best to move on. Focusing on my own life is exactly what I am doing, started a new job, fitness, friends and relaxing in my own time. Time heals and light is at the end of the tunnel. 4 years of memories will not disappear over night, maybe for years to come I will get these thoughts as I have in past relationships just not with the feelings.