cherryblossom2

Lost, totally agree. And I think he realised it too. Hence why he has decided to leave it. 

I think that’s what I’m struggling with, you can still text someone once a day to show you’re thinking of them. Not just disappear. Clearly he doesn’t like me. 

Ha yes true. We both go away shortly at the same time, so I’m my head if given him until the end of August to contact me. And if he does it depends on what he says. And if we’re talking about longer than a month then I won’t reply. 
 

Not that it’s an excuse, but on the day that we first met he already seemed stressed. He seemed like he had a shed load on his mind, recently moved home, his job is going through some major transitions some of which don’t sound very nice. To some degree I do believe it’s a timing thing. But I don’t like the way he has handled it..

Well the more I talk about it on here, the more I think that I’m going to leave it and ignore him if he does ever reach out 🤣 I’m off on holiday soon and won’t be thinking about him. 

Thanks. I’m now glad I sent the message! 
 

Ha ha, do you think this was a polite goodbye then?

If he does reach out to me then I’ll keep him at arms length I think. I’m going to only take him seriously if he actually asks me out for a date and doesn’t muck me around consistently. Otherwise I’m done. 

He actually sent the message a couple of days before the date, not that should make much of a difference! 

Ah thanks! A friend said it was a bit harsh which made me think perhaps it was a bit too full on in the early stages of dating. 

Thanks, I’m in agreement. I think I’ll leave him to see if he comes back to me. Do you think perhaps my message would have put him off? 

Hi all,

I met someone just over a month ago on a weekend break, we've been in contact for just over a month and been on one date, we both have children and work, he has a full on stressful job which from the start he warned me about. Initially he said he wanted to meet but needed for work to calm down first, but then he contacted me a few days later and reconnected again. 

The weekends he doesn't have his kids he goes quiet, I don't initiate contact but he comes back saying he had a heavy weekend etc etc 

I asked if he was seeing anyone else and I would prefer to leave it, but he said he wasn't. He sends photos of his kids all the time which I thought was a bit full on, but nice.

We arranged to meet this week, but after 3 days of silence I wrote it off. He then sent me this message: 

Hello! I’m really sorry for radio silence - work is really kicking off and now the stress of summer holiday kid arrangements! I’m wary of coming across distant but the reality of my first text is somewhat coming to reality - I’ve got v little bandwidth for dating at the moment! For what it’s worth I’m absolutely not dating anyone else or having any life outside of the kids and work at the moment 😂. I think realistically this week is a write off for meeting up. I genuinely would like to see you again but I don’t want to frustrate or mess you around. So hopefully we can keep in touch and then meet up again after our respective holidays? Totally up to you but wanted to say hi and explain what I’m up to! X

I don't know how to take it tbh. I can't tell if this is an elaborate excuse?! 

This was my response: 

Hello, thanks for your message.
I totally get how busy things can become. I have a lot going on too, so I know what it’s like. But something I really value is consistency.  Cutting contact for long periods of time is not cool at all. 

Happy to keep in touch, just next time communicate when things get a bit much in your life instead of disappearing 😉 

Have a lovely evening x
 

I’ve not heard anything for over week, I’m wondering if my message was a tad harsh?