Cherry009

Thank you, your words are what I need to hear to confirm that my instincts were accurate. It feels so much better to know others have had similar experiences and to know that I am on the right path. Sometimes I feel like I could easily fool myself again and just let myself believe thoughts and scenarios in my head that do not even exist. Thank you again for your support, I appreciate it very much.

Glad I helped a bit, PM me if you ever feel an urge to break NC

DO NOT REPLY. You are spot on there with the fact that he is just trying to ease his guilt, if you reply you will go back a few steps in your recovery, remember what you said to yourself before.....he wouldnt have broken up with you if he wanted to be with you. Keep strong and stick to NC, you will regret it otherwise. My ex did something similar about 10 days ago and i didnt reply, i feel so much better now and soooo glad i didnt reply.

I am on day 5. At first I started the NC rule as I had read so much about how it would make my ex miss me and want me back. But now after some straight talking from people on this site I realised the most important thing and that was my ex would not have broken up with me unless they did not want to be with me. Living with the small bit of hope that an ex will miss you and will want you back, maybe, is soul destroying. No reason they give is good enough. Someone who truly loves you will not leave you.

This is so true!

I am on day 14, deleted every trace of him & am feeling good!