teddy123

Sorry, but this is a getting back together forum, please put your personal issues on a different section of this forum.

I know this couple who were an item for 6 years, and out of the blue he claims he has no interest in her, and wants to breakup. They did, and she was devastated. I'm not sure what the details were, but 1 year later, he contacts her and one day, he goes to her work place with a diamond ring asking her to marry him. But by then, it was too late, she was over him.

There is definitely a pattern that most success stories follow. It seems like an average of 6 months is the bare minimum for a successful reconciliation. Anything sooner is not enough time most likely, however of course there are rare exceptions. It seems like the average range is 6 months to 1 year. It seems to be the dumper coming back in the vast majority of stories or simply running into each other where nobody really initiates it but you hit it off again. In most success stories, contact was completely cut off or limited. This really drives the point home of the importance of NC!

This is the idea i'm getting from whilst reading these "getting back together" stories. Perfect sum up!

People should definitely start writing how they "re encountered" their exs after months of NC.

Co-worker's story.

About 8 months ago my boyfriend dumped me saying he's had it and he doesn't want a relationship anymore. We were together for almost 5 years. I was so heartbroken, i was venting it to my co-worker. She told me she had similar experience also about her 5 year mark her boyfriend broke up with her. I told her all the things mine had said to me, all the nasty things you can think of. She told me hers said the exact same things like, "i dont want to be in a relationship anymore, i want to be single, i'm sick of dealing with you, you'll never change and i already gave you chances." Her breakup was because of some immature acts she did. She never liked her Bf's BFF's GF (now wife).... and she also busted out that he had cheated on her before... before you know it... the Bf got really tired of drama and just broke up with her, not sure if there were any other details as i didnt want to butt into her business, but that's what she told me. She did NC, and worked on herself and a year later she wrote a letter spilling her heart out with updates of her current life, and surprisingly, the Bff's GF helped her and convinced the BF that he should give my co-worker another chance, so they got back together. Now, it has almost been 1.5 years since they got back together, and she just got engaged recently with him.

This was a wonderful story, she was soooo happy and chippy to be engaged... i give all my wishes to them.

On the other hand, i have yet to hear anything from my ex, not a text, not a call, not an email... dont know if i should be happy or said about it, all i've heard was "he's been playing games all night, every night", i was kind of disappointed that he did not use this space/time to work on himself. As for me, i understood what went wrong, and what I think i needed to change, as well as trying to live on my own as much as i can. It's been difficult, but holding my head up high.