harsh284

it seems to be our last break up now. you were just stringing me along for the whole year. 2 day nc this time and feel like nothing has a sense anymore.would even try a rebound to stop this pain but I can t be with someone without loving him. even quit my job to get away from you but can t get you out of my heart.i ve hit rock bottom this time

 

I have gone through the same - Though I am not the strongest person to advice on NC but I managed to be on NC for more than 1.5 months - Best way is to accept the present situation and not to think of the future because nobody knows what is there in the future - Pain is because you dont accept the present situation and try to derive your future out of it - And dont think about it much and try to get yourself involved in some activities - I hope it helps - Best of luck

Don't send it to him. He doesn't need anymore false hope.

 

No prayer is going to bring back an ex.

 

Go find someone better.

I dont need the prayer to get her back - I just want to improve my life as well as other things (like my career) that are not working out for me - It might help and even if doesnt I am happy to pray

Can I have that prayer please? my email: email removed

My question is "What did the dumpee do after the breakup? Did he/she only followed NC for the reconciliation to happen?"

Thanks really interesting and inspiring - gives me some hope

Well, I'm doing what I can to keep positive, and I do know how hard it is - a number of people have spoken about positive mental attitude and all that..I will admit to being down in the dumps for a bit, but thats just natural, I guess..

 

I'm working with the idea of LOA, it may happen it may not..as I say, the MSN thing is kinda puzzling, but i'm not putting too much 'weight' on that.

 

Theres some fantastic threads on here about things working out, so keep your hopes up, stay positive...but know where the point is where you say 'thats enough'

 

Mark

I just hope I am not keeping wrong hopes

Really encouraging to see such a positive attitude - Helps me to get positive - I am a very negative person as such -Thanks

Is getting back possible after 2 months of minimal/no contact? My GF is headstrong and told me she does not want any kind of contact - It's been 2 months of break up since my breakup with her but no words from her

What are the chances of Ex coming back 50:50 or less than that or more than that??

If this is really true then its really some hope enhancer - gives me some hope

Usually the person who was left spends the first month or weeks continuing to push, and this causes the dumper to reinforce the negative memories of the relationship. After a while, usually a month or so, the dumpee will stop pushing and let things go. Then a couple more months starts to pass and during that time of no pushing the dumper's negative memories start to fade and during alone time they will begin to remember some of the positives.

 

It's been 5 months or so for me and my Ex and I this past week have gotten along really well (we work together so didn't have a chance for distance and space) to the point where we are chatting almost like the old days, laughing and bantering back and forth. So given personal experience the numbers really do fit.

This sounds quite convincing -- gives me some hope - Thanks

In my case its been 2 months and situation is no better - She has not contacted me since the break up

Day 1

Contacted her today after 13 days of NC. She broke up with me on 20 October 2010. Was hopeful that she will reply this time. But she ignored me yet again. Really depressed. I am starting again. Hope God is there and helps me.