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Day 6 -

Doing well, my sister had a baby girl this morning. Her and my ex were always pretty close and my ex always asked when she was due. I was thinking about sending her a quick text later today to let her know. Not sure I should even do this? Thoughts?

Right there with you. Even after making it clear a friendship is not possible, 3 months later my ex does the same thing. I tried the LC and NiC thing and it made me miserable too. I just simply can't talk to her anymore either because I'll do NC for 10 days and she'll text. I'll reply then rinse and repeat. Have to stop this cycle.

I hear on this one. I made it very clear as well I am not open to friendship and the occasional call to "touch base" as she puts it. Yeah having LC just is not healthy, maybe for a few weeks or so, but it also made me miserable, because every time I thought we were making some strides towards reconciling she would take a step back. So stay strong this time around and do not respond to her crap. If she has something important to say, like let's get together for lunch or I really want things to work between us, then I would say yes, but be very guarded.

Day 5 - feeling a little down this morning, but I realize the only way to truly heal is to continue shutting her out of my life. I have done this NC thing a few times over the past six months and every time she ends up contacting me after a few weeks. Assuming she contacts me a couple weeks, this time I need to be really strong and not respond to any meaningless BS. If she has something really concrete like wanting to talk about starting up something new, or she really does miss me, then I may consider, but anything less than that I will continue my silence.

Sorry, I did not start this challenge from day 1, but I am on day 4 today. I feel alright. She did text this morning saying to have a good day. I am tempted to reply but refuse to play her little games. Just going to continue. Hopefully, I do not hear from her anytime soon so I will not be tempted.