Rebel-D

I don't think NC is the way for me to go at the moment. I'm sure I'll be back to this challenge before long though.

Day 2 and I've had weak moments but doing ok now (8.30pm). Have got Saturday planned so less likely to ask him if he wants to go the film we both want to see. He won't even have noticed that I am making and effort not to contact him.

I'm still not sure NC is the way to go.

 

go nc. period

 

nc is for YOU and YOU only...foget him.

 

wanting him to want you...you can't force someone to do stomething no matter how hard you try.

 

staying friends is very hard...most can't.

 

do not let him know, that gives him the power. do this for yourself...easier said than done. we all hold out hope that somehow or someway it will work out and i guess in a very small number of cases it will--circumstances can play a part in this.

 

good luck....

 

I've already said I know he doesn't want me back. I'm not going to ask or try so that isn't an issue. If it's about "power" then he has it already.

 

Ok, so Day 1 of no contact complete. I was a mess earlier this evening but called my sisters and feel better for it.

It is over. He ended it on Thursday, this was for the second time and I'm sure he means it. I want him to want me again but I know he won't. I think I should go NC is so that I can get over this. I thought that I'd fall in to the friends thing quite easily but after seeing him I'm not sure I can. I just don't know whether to let him know how hard it is and that I won't be contacting him for a while.

Could someone tell me if it's best to let them know you are going NC? I want him back but know it's not going to happen. We've tried once before but he just couldn't get back the feelings he had at the start. It was my barriers and issues that resulted in the first split. I did change when we tried again though.

He finished with my on Thursday, we chatted for a bit on Saturday then I saw him on Sunday. It was obvious he is happy enough just being friends. Actually he'd go either way, whichever is easiest for me. This is a good, respectful guy so if I said contact was difficult he'd respect that and not contact me.