snuupi

I didn't say go in full in with guns blazing...I said to reestablish some contact after 4-8 weeks. Now that doesn't mean you're going to get back with them but you can live your life without them and go about yours. You are going to have to show them that you are a vibrant person with a life. Going strictly no contact would be difficult to establish that.

 

Now I suppose if you were in a long relationship and going through a divorce, you might need a bit more time to heal than the 4-8 weeks. However, only you will know when the time is right to break NC.

yes.. i agree with that..

you have to break NC sometime.. but WHEN the time's right.. you have to find out on your own..

i think LC can only work, if the dumper starts LC and keeps on contacting you from time to time.. because if you do it yourself all the time and nothing comes back you might get on his nerves and push him away from you again.