lionquack

Have not been on here ages. (2 weeks ish)

Met someone else and am over her. My new girl is o much better in EVERY way. Only problem I have is barriers. I wont lower them now for a while so i dont get hurt.

Only day 3..minutes seem like hours, hours seem like days, and days seem like years...will it get any easier? the pain is unbearable

 

 

If it makes it easier ...yes the pain will subside but will take time. keep busy. Come on ENA to vent. It helped me sooooo much.

i feel the weight of the world lifted off my shoulders when i accepted that it's over. i am moving on and although it's technically 3 days it's been 8 weeks since things forever changed.

 

in a way i am lucky things didn't keep lingering on....

 

ours was a relationship that was sooooo good i ask myself how it all happened and i know the answers--i am comfortable with the fact i couldn't change things, it was just meant to be and I made EVERY effort i could to be there and support her....but it just wasn't the answer....

Good luck to you too. Accepting its over is the best thing for YOU. Eventually you will see the grass is greener too

I did not think i would meet someone else who I would find more interesting and concentrating my efforts on her has made it 100% easier to move on. No use flogging a dead horse.

DAY 7 (24 days technically - foolishly broke NC on day 17)

Don't miss her anymore Think her about very little and when I do its out of hatred. I finally realised she is a bad person and I am too good for her.

She has also left the country so out of site out of mind.

Going NC and ENA have helped with healing considerably.

Also met a new girl who I really like and am in the process of wooing her.

DAY 2 (broke 17 days NC 2 days ago)

Was not worth it as she dont give a stuff. Waste of time. No use thinking she will contact me now.

I WONT break NC again.

Day 2 -

Have no feeling for her atm. Been busy seeing someone else.

wow....can't believe its been that long since my last attempt to contact him !

 

well done. that is a major achievement

Day 1

I foolsihly broke NC on day 16 as I heard she is leaving the country. I text her so we could talk to get closure before she goes. She obviously already has closure as she is leaving the country.

I was feeling so down. Last night I went out dancing and met a new girl. She is hotter than my ex and i find her attractive. I got her number.

I'm guessing she likes me too. We are goign out Friday.

Today I feel 100% better. at the moment i coudl not give a stuff about my ex. She dont deserve me like all my friends have been saying all along.

peace out.

Day 17 -

well I did not break NC on day 16 but definitely did yesterday.

Since I found she is leaving the country ina week or so I texted her yesterday. Not to reconcile but to so we can talk so we can gain some closure as the things that happened between both of us have affected us both.

No reposnse yet and dont think she will repsond. its only been 3.5 weeks since we broke up!!

You didn't break NC. You didnt speak to her and she has no way to know it was you (she might be wondering....but she probably has been wondering all along if you still think about her and miss her, etc).

 

Must be extremely hard for you though....I know I would be dying to speak to my ex if I knew he was leaving my country !!!

Thanks Ixtapa.

It is so difficult to not initiate contact since i found this out last nite. To think she will leave with out saying bye is gut renching for me.

I have tried to go over and over in my head what i would ask her and say but cant find anyhting without coming accross needy and desperate.

She has made no effort to contact me.....

DAY 16...

Just when i though i was almost healed I think I broke NC.:sad:

A friend told me my ex is leaving the country in a week to go back to her country and on her FB she states 'its too late now flights are booked'. i cannot see her FB as I blocked it.

I dont know if this message is focused at me but it may be that the break up has been difficult for her too (she is the one who messed up by lieing and cheating). So she has decided to start fresh in her own country.

Anyway I stupidly called her late last nite without even thinking about what I was going to say from a WITHELD NUMBER. she answered and I realised how stupid and unreasonable I am being and hung up.

Theres a strong chance she does not suspect it was me.

So did I break NC? I did not speak with her even though I called?

DAY 15

Had a great day. Meeting loads of new girls through my hobby (salsa/bachata dancing).

DAY 14

I made it to 2 weeks NC. So proud. Feel loads better. The more i reflect on how and why we broke up the easier it is becoming to accept. Shes a bad person for what she did to me and I deserve much better.

All those finding it hard stick with NC to Heal YOURSELF not to make you EX miss you.

DAY 13.

I posted her teddy back last night. Thread here if your interested:

Have not heard anything back from her and dont expect to.

Almost 2 weeks now of NC so am very proud of myself. Still does not mean I do not miss her every minute of the day and pine for her at night as we slept together every night.

Oh well. Hopefully it will get easier. I am loads better than I was the first 3 days into the break up.

Best of luck to you imjgh, well done for getting to the 30 days. I hope it works out for you, however things turn out.

 

I bolded the bit of your post that was most important to me and hopefully to other people on here.

 

 

 

that statement in Bold is what we should all be striving towards with NC. But the truth is some or most are'nt.

Day 1....Im gonna be strong this time.

you can do it..trust me. If I can you can. There are many many others in the same boat.

yes she thinks of you lion...

 

it is like a roller coaster, some days up and some down...over the long haul it does get easier...but it's never easy.

 

you say you need to be with someone else, do you mean a friend or someone to replace her with? highly suggest you don't go out and find another girl just to replace her....that's not fair to the new girl....i think we all should take the high road, what goes around comes around back to us...

 

hang in there...

Thanks for your kind words. I meant a new girlfiriend to rpelace her seems my best option for me.

I am fine when i am busy as it take smy mind off her but when I am alone she jumps into my mind. The way we looked at each other, the way her soft blonde hair felt, her smell, her beautiful skin. Gosh i miss her

it does'nt help that I saw her yesterday looking damn hot. its unaviodable though!!

I feel like texting her back right now thats why I am posting on here....

DAY 12

Still not broken NC. Saw her yesterday (we live so close - 10-15 seconds away) She did not see me though. Its hot int he Uk at the moment (surprisingly ). She looked hot. Damn I miss her dearly. Was reminsicing of our passionate nights of making love last night.

Still have not replied to her text and do not intend to. Deleted her number so I dont.

All in all its not getting much easier for me personally. I though it would be. I think I need to be with someone else to take my mind off her.

I wonder if she thinks of me as much as I think of her and miss her..........

Sorry to hear of your pain. Its ok to cry. You will get good days and bad days. I did in the beginning. I think ex's seem to remember the bad things more than the good things even though they were SOOOOO GOOOOD.

Stick to NC. Her being with another guy should help you with your closure. i know it would help me.

i woke and found out she sent an im early this morning...wants to talk on the phone tonight.

 

i had hoped she would contact me and we could see each other in person to discuss things.

 

not sure what to make but at least i will get my answers.....at least some of them.

Are you gonna contact her?

I got a text yesterday after 11 days of NC. I am stumped and have been thinking about her all day. Everytime i do and feel weak that i gonna text her back I come on ENA.

DAY 11

Just another day! Last night she text me but my friend talked me out of texting her back. My friends have been great through this break-up.

DAY 10

Still not broken NC. I am so pleased with myself. Not pleased being single. Keep having dreams of her. Hate it.

day 6 -

Its the bank holiday weekend in the UK. The realisation that I am not going to see her over the next 3 days which are not being spent at work is tough to accept.

I think I may bump into her at some point as I live 20 seconds away. Hope I dont thouhg!

Day 6 of NC.

I was silly enough to watch a vid of her and me togther last nite briefly. Sometimes I think the chemistry between us and they way we looked at each other is something I will never have a gain so a bit down today.

I have removed her from FB so dont see her updates.

Looking forward to the weekend and not bumping into her. Nc is defo the best way to heal in my opinion.

So to all those in NC stick at it. However, i have not yet been in the situation of her contacting me yet but i dont expect it and to be honest sometimes i feel i dont want her too.

Day 5 - dont feel so bad this morning! She ain't worth it!