voivod

yea, start getting good at saying no to her, if you think she cant handle it, more of a reason to be in NC, this will allow her to miss you more. You have to ask yourself, Do I wanna be with this girl 100% as her boyfriend or nothing at all, or do I value her friendship above all else and could see us still being friends?

well, she's my wife, we're separated, long gory story. no infidelity but a lot if s#it.

i value her friendship a ton. she might disagree, but i'd say we're best friends.

but i want the whole enchilada back.

fyi-i was the one she had take care of her van tonight when it quit running. she knew i would!

every time i start no contact she calls or needs or wants something.

i've never gotten very good at saying no to her.

advice?

ps-i don't think she could handle no contact although she is the dumper.

i leaped from page three of this thread to the end, so if this question has been asked already, i apologize.

i've been seeing counseling for issue that i have had most of my life that i know led to my wife and my separation. i have been seeing her on a consistent basis the whole time we have been living apart. understand this woman is everything to me. i love her dearly. there was no infidelity in our relationship. just my stupid controlling and jealousy.

so here we have been seeing one another a couple of times per week, often at her insistence/invitation. so you know i love being with her. but i don't think any real progress has been made towards us getting back together.

is it too late to retreat into nc mode? have i blown it by playing this little "dating game" with her. i'm ready to do the nc thing. again, is it too late for that?

ps-i didn't see super dave on this page. did he disappear from this thread? his stuff was what motivated me to take this step.