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Mine is pretty short:
1. madly in love with me
2. extremely attractive
3. honest
4. ambitious
5. wants a family
6. emotionally mature
7. fun to spend time with
Yup...that pretty much covers it.
BTW I just realized the ex that I've been pining over obsessively only has qualities 4 and 7. He was fairly attractive but a lot of things bothered me about him (he's short, has a unibrow, has lots of blackheads, and weird teeth). He said he wanted a family at one point but then changed that halfway through. So he doesn't meet 2 or 5. He never loved me, so he doesn't meet 1. He lied to me about his feelings throughout our entire relationship, so he doesn't meet 3. He has low self-esteem and self-efficacy and is extremely passive aggressive, so he doesn't meet 6.
All in all, probably for the best that we're not together anymore, I'd say!
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Haha what miss firecracker??
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But brahman, sometimes two people can love each other and it still won't work out. For instance, if I desperately love a guy, and he desperately loves me, but he's a compulsively-lying carnivore who detests kids, well, there's just no way it could work.
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Finally a woman who doesn't have a list with dozens of points...
Hey I only have seven.
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Mine is pretty short:
1. madly in love with me
2. extremely attractive
3. honest
4. ambitious
5. wants a family
6. emotionally mature
7. fun to spend time with
Yup...that pretty much covers it.
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ghost, intelligence has a lot to do with someone being interesting. People of a lower intelligence level are not likely to have made the connections between events that move a story from dull to interesting/surprising, and they are also not likely to have the meta-awareness necessary for deeper emotional or personal conversations. If I feel like I can't fully express myself to someone because they're not intelligent enough to understand most of the things I say, then that would obviously be unacceptable for someone you're hoping to live your life with. Likewise, I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who was light years ahead of me in intelligence, because it would make me feel weak, confused, and bad about myself. I think the best situation is to find someone equally as intelligent as you are, but with different experiences, so that you both have a lot to teach each other, but both of you are also able to learn.