Well this is a big topic, but this is what I am wondering. My son whom I do not have a relationship with at the moment as there is a court ordered restaining order. He is in jail for the next maybe year, and has been for the last six months. His X girl friend, which they have a child together who is three hasn't seen his dad in six months, and is not told about his dad or shown pictures. The mom, who is a wonderful person feels it it better for him to forget about his dad. I say, tell him about his dad, but the truth, which is "he is a drug addict", he needs help he has a illness.. etc. Be honest with him and tell him in a language he can understand. It is up to her she is the mom, but I just e mailed her and gave her my opionion. The reason I can speak from experience, is the same thing happened to me many years ago, when i left my childrens husband because of drugs, I mean heroin, crack, etc, heavy drugs., I didn't tell my kids the whole truth. Then when i tried to years later, they resented me for not being honest with them. Well that is what I have to say. thanks for any info, any links or anything that might help me.. it might be off the wall ,, maybe she is right, but i don't think so , i think she is just protecting her child. Thanks
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Well this is a big topic, but this is what I am wondering. My son whom I do not have a relationship with at the moment as there is a court ordered restaining order. He is in jail for the next maybe year, and has been for the last six months. His X girl friend, which they have a child together who is three hasn't seen his dad in six months, and is not told about his dad or shown pictures. The mom, who is a wonderful person feels it it better for him to forget about his dad. I say, tell him about his dad, but the truth, which is "he is a drug addict", he needs help he has a illness.. etc. Be honest with him and tell him in a language he can understand. It is up to her she is the mom, but I just e mailed her and gave her my opionion. The reason I can speak from experience, is the same thing happened to me many years ago, when i left my childrens husband because of drugs, I mean heroin, crack, etc, heavy drugs., I didn't tell my kids the whole truth. Then when i tried to years later, they resented me for not being honest with them. Well that is what I have to say. thanks for any info, any links or anything that might help me.. it might be off the wall ,, maybe she is right, but i don't think so , i think she is just protecting her child. Thanks