Mongoose542

At times, it's really not all their fault, maybe they went through hard times early in life, they at the same time trying to find a way to cope. Yes, abusing is wrong, no excuse, but they don't realize it until they lost wut they most love and then it's too late.

That's good to hear Jason and yes I think Ms. Tea was wrong in the other post saying abusers don't change and expect people to feel sorry for them. I was just like u Jason and my now ex b/f would keep taking me back and forgiving me for hurting him so badly until he couln't take it anymore and broke up. And no, I never expected anyone to feel sorry for me. Yes I came from a very abusive father who was everything, verbally, physically and emotional and yes, I know know that was no excuse for applying that to the guy I love. Now it's been almost 3 weeks since getting counseling and also anger management, it's really helping. Well as for my now ex, he say he might get back, but doesn't know. It's ok, I told him he can take all time he wanted.

Teacup I think ur being way too harsh, b/c by ur post, u mean that abusers can't change and that there never is a cause, but there is, if u read my post. Yes I myself would beat up my b/f, he would took up with it, and yes I would use the same mean words my dad would say to both me and my mom back when I was just a kid. Yes I did also defended mom at several occasions as a kid, was like 10 and dad broke my nose three times, Im telling u he was real mean and cruel, the only difference is he never apologize, I on the other hand did when I realize how I have hurt by b/f. You don't understand wut went on in my mind, yes I know there is no excuse, I know, I started counseling yesterday and anger management. Yes I'm trying to win back my b/f, and I'll, he say the only way is if I prove it. So yes I'll change but ur just saying abusers are bad people who won't change, so according to u, then I'm bad? And no, whenever I would both verbally and physcially abuse my b/f, I never meant to do it, it was out of frustration, yes I was sorry afterwards. And yes, I'll also stop drinking, I would also hit him when drunk. I know there is no excuse, thats why I did seek help and I'm getting it. And when he comes back, I'll be different, I won't hurt him again.