Westcoast224466

3 minutes ago, bluecastle said:

"Playing games" feels like an awfully harsh conclusion to reach, as does "gives an excuse" in the context of her not being able to go out. I may be reading things wrong—and feel free to supply some more specifics as to how you asked her out and what she said—but I can't help but think you may be looking a bit too closely for harbingers of toxicity rather than just accepting that dating is a big ol' crapshoot.

Anyhow, all in all it just doesn't sound like she's super duper interested. Yeah, she exchanged numbers. Yeah, she poked you after seeing you at a party. But then she kind of fades out just as quickly. That's not game-playing. That's just the baseline—how all of this goes far more often than not. If you can think of it like that it's all a lot easier, and more fun. 

When I asked her out for drinks - her response was “she is too busy at work and she work long hrs” 

 “just baseline - think of it as fun” I should have replied with banter instead of saying I wasn’t aware that she was there ? 

3 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Do you mean the woman from the bar saw you at the event with a date? Kind of awkward but nothing you can do about that.  You don't have to cut ties per se because she's not contacting you or interested. Just don't bother asking her out again. 

Yes, I was on a date with another woman. Agreed: I won’t bother asking her out again. Thank you. 

Met a woman at the bar / got her number etc. days go by and I ask her out. She gives an excuse so I let her know to let me know when she is free and we go from there. A week and half goes by with no communication. Went on a date to an event and I guess she was there since the next day she messages me on why I didn’t say hi to her. I told her that I did not know she was there. She reads it and doesn’t reply. My last relationship was toxic so I took a break. Getting back into the dating world is something I want to move slow with.nothing serious at this time. So I guess my question is ; should I cut ties with this person because it seems like she is just playing games.