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2 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Sorry this happened. It's good you went to a doctor and got tested and treated and informed your contact.  Since this was a casual hookup situation it would be best to cut your losses. 

There's nothing more to discuss. You informed him and it's up to him to get tested and treated. Please don't second guess laboratory results to hang on to him.  He can come up with whatever he wants but a lab test is a lab test. 

Please delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. There's nothing to salvage here. Even though some STDs can be asymptomatic and festering, he admits not being tested. 

Please practice safer sex. Condoms don't prevent everything but it certainly helps and is especially important in casual non-committal situationships. 

Thank you for your advice:) am I wrong in feeling disrespected by him not replying? this who experience has been so hurtful

Hi. I need your honest opinion. I was seeing a guy for a few months. I told him I wanted more with him, and he said he was going thru things, or didn't know how to talk about his feelings. So I would leave him alone, and every time I did, he would come back like nothing happened asking to see me. We ended up hooking up once or twice a month for 5 months. I was sure he didn't see anyone else, bc he told me I was the only one. 

Recently saw my doctor for an annual exam, was screened, and was diagnosed with an STI. I told him about it, and that he was the only one who could've given to me as I was only with him and I have always been clean in the past. He told me that he would go to the doctor but hasn't been tested in a long time. I asked if he would share his results w me so I can be retested and have the right info to inform my doctor, and he completely ignored me. I haven't heard a thing since

Why would he ignore me? Is he pissed or thinks I am "dirty" or a "liar"? Thats how it is making me feel and it has been so ***ty. OR do you think he is guilty, and knows it and is not wanting to take accountability? Because if it were me and I didnt have it, I would telll the other person so they aren't going around thinking I gave them an STI. 

ive been thinking about reaching out again, just to let him know how all this has affected me so I can move on. but im afraid he is going to say "im clean so idk where you got it" and then im going to worry wondering if my test wasnt accurate or if he is lying. 

thank you for your input