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3 minutes ago, MissCanuck said:

Has he exhibited other controlling traits in the past? 

Not really. Maybe that's why I didn't want to believe this line of thought. We are both very straightforward and stuff like cheating or disloyalty was never in the picture. I know him to be someone who says everything to a person's face bluntly if he has a problem with it.. 

1 minute ago, Wiseman2 said:

Use this time apart to reflect and gain objectivity from trusted friends and family as well as information about the kind of behaviors you're seeing from him

Thanks. It's just that i recently had a huge fallout with my friend circle and there are no family members i can approach with this issue. It was nice to hear your perspective. 

2 minutes ago, MissCanuck said:

A huge one, yes

Thanks. I guess i really wanted to hear it from someone else to believe it. 

57 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Reconsider the relationship while you are home and free from him for a while. Discuss his controlling behavior with trusted friends and family. What do they think of him? 

Unfortunately what you are describing are red flag for controlling abusive relationships. Read up on the warning signs for that.

Try not to confuse possessiveness and keeping you on a tight leash with love.

Is he controlling, jealous and intimidating in other ways? You need to have much firmer boundaries and discontinue letting him treat you like a criminal with a monitoring device.

Unfortunately it sounds like you're in a prison, not a caring relationship.

He doesn't seem like intimidating or controlling. He shares things out of love, and expects me to do the same. I'm just not used to it i believe. I'm very comfortable being with myself. I don't feel the urge to tell everything beforehand. A conversation at the end of the day works for me on most days. And i get exhausted from the constant bickering and fighting when we are apart. Is it really a red flag? 

5 minutes ago, MissCanuck said:

I'm confused. Does this mean you are not living together right now, due to work commitments? 

Yes. We are living together while pursuing mba. Now and then we go back to our respective homes. Now we are apart as we are doing our internships in different places.

1 minute ago, MissCanuck said:

I'm confused. Does this mean you are not living together right now, due to work commitments? 

Yes, I understood that, but what about exactly? He says you don't communicate enough, but what does that mean for him? That you don't call or text enough? Go out too much? Or...?

I don't inform him about the mundane things i do all day. For eg. I went shopping with my mother all day a while ago. I informed him about that. But he was still upset that i didn't text him while shopping with my mom. He expects me to text a lot more than i do. He wants constant updates.

We are in the middle of doing our mba. We are interning in different places right now. We have 0 fights when we live together. Whenever we come back to our respective homes, i.e, whenever we are not living together anymore, he picks up fights a lot. We had a heated discussion for 4hours at night the last time I came back home because he thought i don't communicate enough with him. 

My boyfriend fights a lot with me whenever we are apart (we are in a live-in relationship and whenever we are together we are always very happy). It's always about small things like giving directions, or forgetting to tell him I'm going out. I make a lot of mistakes too I know but fighting almost everyday after work just leaves me a little more upset and frustrated everyday. He has trust issues and he had a hard childhood so i understand his point of view. But lately I feel like he just doesn't want me to have a life outside of this relationship. I also don't want to hurt him. What should I do?