Davidgrx

17 hours ago, Jenbeee said:

Hi David. 
Lots of good advice here. Just wanted to jump in to add. 
Hopefully by now, you’ve moved on and let things be. ( Edited as I noticed your last post) the situation is still in question....it would be best for you to move forward without her. Wish her well and get your life filled with people who don’t want to be absent from your life. 
 

Wish you the best,

Jen

Hi Jen,

Yes indeed.. that's what I am gonna do. I am gonna continue with life.life is too short to wait for somebody who doesn't know what she wants.

Thx Jen

David

On 2/24/2023 at 10:49 AM, Davidgrx said:

We gonna have a call later today. Let's see what happens

Do we had a call and I have told her I will not wait for her. No discussion, no yelling or so.

I want to thank you all for the advice and sharing your experience also.

I will not jump into another relationship for now. I am gonna enjoy being single until one day who knows.

Thx again you all and thx this site exist!!!!

We gonna have a call later today. Let's see what happens

6 hours ago, HeartGoesOn said:

Not thai it matters at this point, but she'd have much more respect for you if you cut the cord.

Why not put yourself back in the drivers seat, while giving your self-esteem a well deserved boost?

That's what I sometimes think. That she just wants that I say goodbye.

But what confusing me is that she says she misses me and the day she has arranged her life she will contact me again and if I still want to continue we do and if not she says "that's the risk I have taken"

But this gives me the feeling it's a person that with whatever issue in life first exclude everything from her life.

Also I noticed she put de offline option on WhatsApp si nobody knows she is online.

I asked to talk this afternoon and she was ok with that. Because I think she must be clear. And I need a closure on all of this.

3 minutes ago, Kwothe28 said:

I dont think you understand what I was trying to say. People are creature of habits. As such, no matter how much we boast as individuals, some of our behaviors can actually be predicted. When she was with you she politely responded her ex and wanted to have nothing with him. And now she politely responds to you and wants to have nothing with you. Do you see the pattern there?

This is not "on hold", this is her pattern of behavior. When she is done with somebody she cuts them off completely. Dont wait for her, just find somebody else.

Got it

.you are right. I understand

7 minutes ago, waffle said:

It's still relatively early where I'm at.  If you jump online right now you could secure a date by later this evening.

Where I love it's almost midnight 🤣 but yes, who knows I must start thinking on that possibility.

Still I love her a lot.

6 minutes ago, Cherylyn said:

You were put on pause.  Don't wait in standby mode.  Wish her all the best and part ways peacefully.  Go NC (no contact) as well.  Move on.  Don't revert back anymore. 

Thx. I think it is what I must do.

52 minutes ago, Kwothe28 said:

And what does that pattern of behavior tells you? That she didnt talk to her ex when you were together and now she doesnt talk to you? 

Dont wait for her. She probably already got back to her ex.

She responded to him as she is a very polite person and also at those moments he still was her boss.

8 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Sorry this is happening. Unfortunately yes it seems like he's threatening her. All you can do is step back and see if she contacts you. There seems to be more to this story.

Thx. So I should just wait for her to contact me? How long you advice me to wait? Yes there is some more I think. But she doesn't tell me everything as it seems her ex wasn't really always legal with taxes. And in June she must see him and then the other people of the company to sell her shares on the anual meeting

But what I don't understand is she wants no contact. Not me or her friends.

I want to help her but she doesn't let me.

So should I give her some weeks or a couple of months?

38 minutes ago, MissCanuck said:

Shes's not done with her ex. I can nearly guarantee that. I bet you come to find out she is giving him another chance.

I'm sorry OP, but this is way too messy. Don't put yourself on hold for her at all. Find a woman who is not tethered to an ex like this. 

She is die with him. That I know as he asked her to marry him and she said no. He has everything money can buy, but she don't want his money, she never did. He also cheated on her twice in the past.

So that I am 100% sure. She left him and a 3500€ a month job for a 1000€ one

Hi,

7 years ago I went on a date with a woman. We left it at one date. During the years we had contact by whatsapp for Xmas, happy birthday etc... Nothing more

Last summer we started to chat suddenly more and we had our second date (yes 6 years later). we just had a Coffee and talked. It went wel. We broke up with our partners, she caught him cheating on her again and my relationship was already dead for months.

So we went out, called each day, saw eachother each week..our children met eachother also. We celebrated Xmas.

And as she worked for her ex in a company she is afraid he will do her something like blaming some transactions whic she can loose her home, if he knows she is seeing another man (she was the accounted of the company). So she suddenly said to me she wants to put our relationship on hold until she is totally out of the company. Some papers still must be done in June. She has already another job in the meantime, which pissed her ex off.

But she really cut me off. No phone, WhatsApp, nothing. When I chat after two weeks asking how she is doing she says she misses me a lot and that she only wants me and she will be always mine. She says she will search for me again. But now she wants to be alone.

So what totally I don't understand why does she exclude me from her life? She says she wants to be alone and once everything is ok she will search for me.

I am confused. I know she loves me and I love her. But why excluding me when I never did something wrong.

Is her reaction normal?

Should I wait for her?

Should I ignore her.

I know if I go on a dating site I will have a date the same day. She always said that she is afraid I would leave her for somebody else.

So totally I don't get her reaction. If she is afraid of her ex, why freezing our relationship which gets damaged.

And she doesn't chat to me. I know she responded to be polite, she also did that to her ex when we were together.

So should I ignore her and leave her alone? Until when? When is the time limit of such a thing. 1 week,month,....?

When would I start forgetting about her?

Any help is welcome