BrokenRomantic

1 hour ago, Seraphim said:

Exactly. 
 

I just want to say as someone who has been stalked at least 4 times in my life it is horrifying and threatening and violating , for the victim. 

Did you read the initial post? They were camping. The car they were packing the day before was gone. The house was dark, the driveway was dark... I wasn't peeking in the windows or trying the doors.

I'm done here... this has gotten out of hand. I was trying to share my lesson, but instead I'm getting attacked by a bunch of internet strangers.

2 hours ago, boltnrun said:

She said it herself.

But yes, it's not your finest moment, OP, and could have potential to get worse (or not...) but definitely a big lesson learned. 

I know. I knew they weren't home, and I honestly wasn't thinking clearly. It was stupid, 90 second mistake.

4 hours ago, junebug123 said:

I’m not going to attack you. I think it’s silly that people have responded so harshly to your post. 

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Its just the idea of feeling like you lost, and the competitive nature in me wants justice. My suggestion, find something which fulfills you more then this incident. Get a gym membership, pick up a hobby or study a new trade.

Let these activities take the place of those feelings you have towards this individual. I know this is hard to believe, but our minds are not capable of actively holding two thoughts at once. When you learn to let go and roll with the punches, you will be more prepared for handling more serious things in life with grace and ease.

Thank you. I have done that and it's helped immensely - it's funny how getting back into playing in instrument completely blocks out every other thought!

10 hours ago, reinventmyself said:

I admire your honesty. . and yes, you must feel awfully embarrassed.    Hard lesson learned.  Shake it off and move forward.

I honestly believe that when those we care for make that choice to leave, we create some undeserving shrine or pedestal to put them on.  The chances are high that had the two of you stayed together you could have just as likely found something you didn't care for and you might have been the one to leave.  When you only date someone for a short time and it ends while you are still on the honeymoon high, it's a long way to fall.

This tends to more about you and feeling abandoned.  It's an icky feeling for sure and you are letting that experience define you and make you feel bad about yourself.  You trying to find fault in her, is just you trying to measure yourself up against her.  You may never know why he left.  I try to find comfort in remembering that I have ended things with perfectly wonderful men and though I wasn't "feelin it"  it took absolutely nothing away from them.  We all go on to find someone better matched for ourselves.

Two years is a long time to carry a torch for someone.  It's really time to move on.   Do it as gift for yourself. . .because you deserve it.

Thank you. This is helpful, I appreciate it.

21 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Yes you could have been arrested. No one stated you should be.

"I'm only human" is a lame excuse because many people don't do stuff this egregious.

Do you think I'm not aware of that?

And clearly you've never made a mistake before in your life - other than to say someone admitting they're human as a "lame excuse." It's not - an excuse is someone trying to absolve themselves of their actions by making something up or passing the blame onto something/someone else. I didn't do that. I regret my error and take responsibility for it.

53 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Hopefully they get a restraining order against you. That way you'll be inspired to leave them alone and move forward.

"Hopefully they get a restraining order against you"? That's a cruel thing to say to someone. I literally haven't talked to him in 2 years. It was a stupid, silly mistake and I owned up to it - because I'm human. You telling me I should be arrested is unnecessarily harsh and uncalled for.

I hate for this to be my first topic, but I feel like SUCH an idiot right now...

Long story short, I dated a guy a couple of years ago. Even though we connected really well, we clearly weren't meant to be, because he broke it off after a short while. Unfortunately, he seems to be the one I can't quite get out of my head. (Yes, I'm in therapy and have worked on this!) I've dated other guys and been in other relationships, but he sticks out.

He moved to another city earlier this year, and I was somewhat relieved... until I saw his new GF's instagram. (That app is the devil.) They got serious really fast, which hurt like hell as I felt like he never gave me a chance in the first place.

I'm in his city for a week for work, and I knew his address - don't ask - so the other day I drove by because I was curious if the GF was living with him after 3 months of them dating. I casually walked by (his house is up on a hill so it's hard to see people on the street - I figured my cover was safe) and saw they were packing up for a camping trip. [Side note: her voice is so shrill and off-putting/annoying that I thought, "He LIKES this? Yikes."]

Last night, I was driving back to my hotel and the route took me right past his house again. I thought, "I need more ammo to dislike this girl. I hope her car is a mess and she's a bad driver!" (Rationale is not one of my strong suits. 🙄) I parked on the street, walked up the dark driveway and went over to her car in the carport. I didn't touch it, didn't do anything, just literally walked around the car, marvelled at the huge scrape on the back bumper, and out of the carport. I stopped by the front gate for 2 seconds and process what I'd just seen, and heard a voice: "Stop snooping around my house!"

Oh my god. He clearly has a Nest or other security cam set up. I'm an idiot.

I froze in place, turned and saw the speaker mounted by the floodlight, then ducked into the bushes and scrambled down the driveway. I then drove home in a panic. Did he see my face? It's 2 years, did he recognize me?

Not to worry - the Instagram-obsessed girlfriend POSTED THE VIDEO on her stories. 😲 The security cam footage she showed was from inside the carport, so the night vision distorted it a bit, but it showed exactly what I had done - walked around and then looked at the rear bumper. Caption was something along the lines of, "This random person just tried to break in. They were looking for a key on my tires! #crimestoppers."

I'm just PRAYING that any other cameras made it hard to see my face, or that he doesn't recognize my face in the video she posted. I am SUCH a crazy psycho ex-gf: I trespassed on my ex's property, got accused by her of trying to break in on social media, and now I'm sitting here banging my head against the desk for doing something so dumb. All because I just wanted one more piece of ammo to use against her to make me not like her, only to have it backfire and put me in danger of being doxxed. 🙄

Please, let this be a warning. Trying to find ways to hate on the new GF by judging her by the state of her car - not recommended.