Tryingtoforget

9 hours ago, Kwothe28 said:

What makes you think you would feel something toward second girl now? Rebound or not, 6 months is the period where that initial spark where something new and exciting passes. And when real feelings start to develop. If you werent feeling it after that time, chances are you are not feeling it. Even if you did got over your ex and can move on, that is not the girl for you.

You are just bored. Meaning that it didnt worked out with your past love and you are not getting any exciting matches on Tinder. So now you are thinking that maybe you should give that second girl another chance. Which is understandable feeling to have but still not something that you should do. Because again, she didnt work out. If anything else, it isnt fair for her. And you will just lose time. Time that you could spend on yourself or even meeting somebody new and better. 

The thing is though that I really think this new girl and I would have worked out. She was everything I was looking for in a relationship, there was nothing wrong with her and I really liked her, and enjoyed her company. 

I just couldn't fall in love with her because I was still so hung up on my ex. Now that I'm making changes and planning on staying single for a while, I really think we could give it another shot. I don't have much experience in these matters, but the reason I think I wasn't falling in love was because I was so hung up on my ex that when the opportunity presented, I took it. Otherwise, this was exactly the girl I was looking for and I think had I been over my ex, I would have jumped at the chance of something long term with her. 

(Tracy) and I started dating in college, for 4 years. We were just perfect together, and I loved her so much. Our relationship was excellent, until suddenly it wasn't. She was depressed due to graduating and not having a job and staying at home. This coupled with some other issues like a 3 year gap between us, we broke up. I don't think I processed the breakup and ended up meeting someone on Tinder.

This girl, I fell really hard for. We had similar interests, she was funny, smart and we had excellent chemistry. I had no idea what rebounding was at the time and I thought things were going so well with her, that I was forgetting about my ex. Time went by and about 5-6 months in I realized I'm not falling in love with this girl, and she just wasn't matching up to my ex. We broke up, and she was heartbroken. 

My ex and I got back together, and for a while things were great before earlier problems reared their head again. We are back to square one where she wants space again. I kept hoping things would get better, but we ended up breaking up again. 

Now I'm alone, back to square one, back on Tinder wondering what to do. I've had a couple of matches but I don't feel interested in anyone, and I'm debating whether I should have given my "rebound" girl a bit more time. The decisions felt right at that point but now that I'm actively working towards getting over Tracy, I think I'm ready to date again. 

What do i do?