I’ve been with my partner 8 years. We live with my Mom who is 76, and have since start of relationship. I’m 53. He’s 59. We both have good jobs. He is a carpenter. I do clerical.
We do not have a mortgage. We pay all the misc bills, gas, electric, etc. and grocery shop. It balances out, helping Mom as she’s not able to get around very well.
Here is my issue, my partner takes on a lot of side jobs for others, to make extra cash, for our future he says. There are things I would like taken care of in the home, I’m always put on the back burner. Will do when gets time. And it seems to drag on waiting. Am I wrong to make a fuss that he constantly puts others before our home. I look at like, we are living an easy life, no mortgage, which is saving us tons. It’s not as if he’s hurting for money and needs to work beyond his job. Why can’t he take care of things here before taking on something else. Return the favor.
We are getting married, and will take over the home from my Mom. As this is her wish. However, he wants to take no mortgage out, considering our ages, and what not. In the end, he may have to go elsewhere and take out a mortgage anyhow! Lol! It’s pretty much the way of life.
Am I asking to much that my projects get done before the others, in which he gets paid for.