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  1. In my native language, you can't say the word "friend" without revealing the gender. So it's like having one word for a male friend and another word for a female friend (suffix reveals it). When I tell him I have plas, he asks what plans. We are open about thinghs like that. I was definitely not trying to make him jealous, there would be no benefit in that for me.
  2. His last break up was overdue. He'd known for months he wanted to end it. I mentioned the guy friend because he seemed jealous and the next day his words and actions seemed as if him not coming to my place were his way of revenge, or power play. Even though that guy friend is really just a friend.
  3. Thank you for your opinion, totally agree on the cocky part. I'm not worried he'd tell anyone in the workplace though, he is very discreet and reliable, that's one thing I know for sure. The way I pictured him it must seem he is a jerk truly, but he wasn't always like this, it started after we slept together. I'm considering ending the sex part for the sake of our friendship, just don't know how to go about it yet.
  4. What made you think that? I'm honestly curious. I mean, women ususally do catch feelings in such arrangements, so maybe it's my case too, I just don't see it yet. To be honest I did consider whether that was the reason I'm overthinking it so much. But I came to the same conclusion each time - I'm positive that I don't want a relationship with him, yet I still love him as a friend. The way I see it, love has many forms and doesn't have to result in relationship. I'm bothered because his behaviour as someone I've been close with towards me changed. P.S.: sorry for my grammar, English is not my native language.
  5. I tried, but he acts like nothing's wrong.
  6. My colleague (who is also my friend) and I have been attracted to each other for a long time. We both became single a while ago and thats when he started hitting on me openly. We slept together and it turned into a FWB. Neither of us wants a serious relationship now. He’s a bit younger so I gues that’s another thing that prevents me from seeing us as a couple. I enjoy the sex, the cuddling and the closeness, but that’s it. I was hoping things wouldn’t change between us (yes I know sex changes everything, but still) and our friendship would stay the same. However, his behaviour became strange and confusing. We chat almost daily at work, he initiates the conversations a lot. One day he is distant, sometimes even acts superior, negging me a lot and making fun of me. Next day he would act normal. Then he would start calling me “love” and telling me how much he loves me but in a clearly sarcastic way as if it was a great joke. He complained once that I should initiate our meetings more but then when I did, he brushed off my advances. I don’t know if it’s some sort of a power play but it’s not something I quite understand. E.g. yesterday he offered he’d come over (it’s been couple of days without sex) but I told him I’m meeting with a guy friend. So we discussed that we’d meet probably today. We were talking on the phone today and when I suggested he’d come today, he said he didn’t feel like it and for the rest of the day was quite distant in texting. His moods and behaviour seems very unpredictable now. Can you help me understand what is going on here?
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