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  1. The weird thing is I've always had a great relationship with my dad. He had no idea until just over two years ago. Until then, we were best friends. I know he idolises my daughter and she lights up when she sees him. It's breaking my heart to keep them apart. Of course I will do whatever I have to in order to protect her, but I just feel so full of grief. I couldn't care less if I never see my mother again. Im convinced she knew about the abuse and is railroading my dad now too. Then again, is he not accountable for his own reaction to this too. It was bad enough that they chose him over me, b
  2. Thank you. Yes I'm starting to question their motivation alright. I'd a message from my dad basically saying that he didn't think we could sort things out without shouting but that he missed his granddaughter and would I / my fiancé drop her into him for an hour now and again. My reading of this message is basically "I don't care about patching things up with you, I only want to see my granddaughter so give her to me". I replied "not while you have a known sex offender dropping into your house on a casual basis, there needs to be some boundaries and some respect for me for once". He hasn't rep
  3. Thank you. It's good to hear that I'm making the right decision. They honestly have me so broken that I question if I am being too harsh. They like to play the victim card a lot, and the fact they are old. I keep feeling guilty about ignoring them and now they are "hiding away" probably hoping I'll "come around" or something. I used to think there could be a way to reconciliation. If my brother had apologised, expressed remorse..if my parents had taken my side and supported me. But instead they turned against me. Accused me of elder abuse. Went running to their GP to show him angry message
  4. I'm sorry to hear that. Sometimes I wonder how many children managed to avoid being abused :( I don't know why, but cutting them off is so hard. Despite everything, I always had a good relationship with my dad (until this all came out) but it's really my mother pulling all the strings here. When my dad first found out he said he would throw my brother out, then the next day he'd had a "change of heart" and said he couldn't put him out. It was clearly my mother who had got to him. She has a misguided over protective obsession with him. Maybe because he's adopted and she is trying to compens
  5. My partner is amazing, I'm very lucky to have him and he's an amazing dad. Yes, we live together. I'm still on maternity leave so childcare not a problem for now. Unfortunately, my parents live just next door to us, so if they have their son over for casual visits (which they do) then he is in very close proximity. I just don't understand why they are sticking by him. My partner has tried talking to them but he just hits a brick wall, like me. They simply repeat "he's our son" over and over. As if that excuses everything. And when I hear my dad on the phone to him, calling him "bud" etc. it ho
  6. I was sexually abused by my older brother when I was a child. From what I recall, the bulk of the abuse took place when I was 6 to around 11. However I do remember he tried to do it again when I was 12, and at that stage, I knew it was wrong, and managed to get away. He is five years older than me. I think my mother knew what was happening. I once kicked in the glass front door in a temper when they left us alone and she asked me "do you be alright with him here by yourself". The abuse has shaped my life in many ways. For years, I identified as lesbian. It's only over the last few years I
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