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  1. Tell her how it makes you feel. No recrimination, just how does it make you feel about yourself that you do all the initiation. Does it make you feel cared for? Desired? Just the opposite, I bet. If this has been going on for some time and an open discussion doesn't move things in the right direction, it might be time for you to move on. It doesn't SEEM like the kind of behavior you should find in someone who is seriously invested in a relationship. Not pleasant to think about. Give her some easy suggestions. She shouldn't need to bite the bullet to show affection independently. Does she f
  2. To me, honey tastes funny in a tea, unless it's with ginger and lemon. I do take honey straight from the jar. :)
  3. To clarify, I really don't feel like making tea with this. Also, I take my tea plain. I can't get tea sweet enough without using way too much sugar, then I may as well drink soda or artificial juice. I'd like something as small as a pill that I can just bam take out all at once. The butter thing sounds silly, so I was looking for other ideas.
  4. Hi, The only St. John's Wort I could find is in gelatin capsules. I won't eat gelatin from pork, but I can open them easily. The original ones I had were pressed/solid inside the capsule, but now it is loose powder inside. The bottle suggests you can do this and make a tea. It does not appeal to me. What can I do to get the dose to go down quickly? I downed the loose powder as quick as I could, but that is very unappealing. I considered putting it in melted butter and cooling it to solid form and taking that before it melts. Would that work, or do you have a better suggestion? Thanks!
  5. Hi, I googled for songs called Stay With Me. Now I remember hearing this before. I'm confused about these lyrics. Is the character starting an emotionally unhealthy relationship? Or is he just confused? Or what? I feel like I don't have quite enough information. Lyrics: Guess it's true I'm not good at a one night stand But I still need love 'cause I'm just a man These nights never seem to go to plan I don't want you to leave Will you hold my hand Oh, won't you stay with me? 'Cause you're all I need This ain't love, it's clear to see But darling, stay with me Why am I so emoti
  6. He just posted about what happened and either deleted it or changed the privacy settings. Without sharing the most private details: there was a death in the family, and it hit him hard. His family is much closer, emotionally, than mine. Knowing, I don't feel as bad for myself.
  7. I'm 38 and I didn't much want kids at 25. Now I'm 38, single, and wondering what if. Tick tock. Seems too late now. IF I was already in a committed relationship and he wanted to try, MAYBE it would be possible. No mate in sight, though. Not fair to put that kind of pressure on a man that I MUST hurry up. I made a friend with children. It didn't work out. My friends are like me. Late 30s, didn't have children, single. Yay. You actually are still young. You have time. At 38, chances of my hypothetical children having birth defects only goes up. I'd be in a higher risk category due to age
  8. Ah, that. HOW! I'm 38 and I just don't connect with people easily. I'm too quiet when I don't know someone well enough and I don't know how to be something I am not. It's some kind of minor miracle to me that some how I became comfortable enough with him with him that I want to talk to him. And listen, I am a big listener. I learned 8 years ago that it's possible to feel some way about a person and for them not to feel the same way. The kind of friendship I feel towards him might not be the level he wanted from me.
  9. No less a hot mess than me. Crying for 4 hours over someone 8 years removed from my life. Followed by being weepy all the next day about that person, the remembered loss of someone who never quite made any official promises, just sentimental words that felt like they meant something. I'm usually fine on my own. I am alone alot but I rarely get bored. I am just overwhelmed by having my personal quarantine being not just a personal choice, but now society actual WANTS me to stay away. Emotionally it doesn't matter that there are pandemic reasons for it. I'm not put together any more than him.
  10. I'm not poking at him about it beyond the 3 sentances I had already written him last night. I'm giving him his space and talking out my side here. I'm inclined to let him contact me next. Maybe it's too awkward now and I'll never hear from him again. That does not help me right now. Makes me feel worse. I'm not even "chatty kathy," he is on the introverted side, too, but he hasn't run out of words when we do call. I can barely get a word in sometimes. Occasionally our words are a bit like a tumble of wiggly puppies. I am making myself crazy right now. I just want a sign that he is alive
  11. Met on a dating site...6 years ago? Never became lovers. Never exchanged words of love, didn't make future plans. He decided he didn't want to pursue a romantic relationship with me but he would like to be friends. I lost contact for several years until he randomly sent a friend request on Facebook last year. I was surprised and pleased. I would say we haven't had continuous contact for very long and it's too soon for him to feel comfortable sharing the most painful heart stuff. We only met once, in December for a few hours. He has shared some of his concerns about the not far off future and m
  12. The guy I broke up with, we were together 4 years. I ended it because I want marriage and family and to move and he wasn't ready for any of that. He is also still dependent on his mother in some ways and that's not encouraging in a man 42 years old. There is more but I don't feel like writing it out. Blah, blah, blah, I didn't enter the relationship fully healed and it wasn't healthy. I matured up and I need someone like that. 8 years ago someone I loved and he said he loved me got engaged. To someone else. And he didn't say anything until after he proposed to her. He was upset by my react
  13. There is one person who I most wanted to talk to. I've been alone for 3 weeks with my only social interaction being work related. It's only partly because of coronavirus. I broke up with my boyfriend 3 weeks ago and I lost my modest social network, or at least I don't feel like answering questions about why. I told my friend about the 3 weeks of only work talk and asked if he was available to speak on the phone. He said he didn't have the energy for chit chat. I feel hurt. I didn't realize talking to me required much energy. I live with my mom and her husband and they were on their year
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