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  1. Thank you. I’m 29 and a year in to progress a relationship doesn’t seem so quick to me but I will take this on board and make sure I am financially protected. I have close friends and family that I would not hesitate to go back to.
  2. One year and I moved in a couple of weeks ago so we’re just adjusting to everything right now :)
  3. Redress - thank you, I really appreciate your answer. The social aspect is a tricky one. Im Glad you agree and I’m not the only chit chatter :) I’m happy in my own company. What I didn’t realise is That he wanted to make new friends as I’m new to the area and I didn’t realise that (I thought they were just talking fitness) so we both didn’t realise what the other was doing. With regards to moving into his flat. I agree, I don’t think I will ever feel like home here and we are in the process of buying a house together which will then be ours. He really does like things his way and I understand as I like my way too. We are good at communicating and talking things through as I am not afraid to stand my ground if I believe I have a good arguement or even apologise when I am wrong. What I’m finding hard is to approach the subject that he does like these little things his way, how would I approach this?
  4. First of all, I’m so sorry you have had to deal with this. I’ve had it done to myself and it is extremely painful. I know. You are the only person who knows your relationship and whether or not you can both learn from this mistake and move forward. It sounds like he isn’t excusing his actions which is good. It was tacky and weak of him to act on his feelings. I know the first reaction would be, he shouldn’t do it in the first place though only you know if you can grow from this as a couple and please talk to him and tell him how you feel. You deserve the best and now his actions should speak louder than his words. Sending hugs and I know how lonely it can be. You’ll be fine x
  5. Hi all, I have just moved into my boyfriends flat. We are going through the adjustment period of living together. This is the first time I’ve lived with a partner. We have been having some silly arguments this week. My boyfriend is very social and outgoing and I’m very shy due to insecurities which I’m working on. We had an conversation because he was talking to a couple at the gym we go to and he introduced me and after I said hi, I quickly got out of the conversation with them and said I’m heading home. I wasn’t rude, I just didn’t hang around to talk. I realise this was unfair of me because it would have meant a lot to my boyfriend to stop and talk with them. I’m just more of a go to the gym, do the workout and go home where he likes to talk to people there. Anyway I apologised to him- no ones is perfect right and I will work on this for his and my sake. One thing that’s really hurt during our argument is that he said if anyone should leave when things get heated, it’s me and this is his flat on paper and if he asks me to leave then I should. This confuses me as he told me that this is my home now, but how can I ever feel that way if he says things like that. Is he right? Is this his home? Will I ever feel like it’s mine? Any tips on how to feel when your the one moving in would be so appreciated.
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