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  1. Thank you all for your advice. It has really been helpful.
  2. abitbroken; I realize dat it's not easy to manage an SC child when in crisis, the trauma of seeing them in so much pains & me not being able to help them in any way is too soul wrecking, I am older than you. I know there is an increased risk in birth defects at my age. However, I could have a completely healthy child, too. My sister went through the ringer with her child - who was born perfectly healthy and hardly ever got much more than a winter cold - but who had an injury from doing something dumb when he was 14. It took a few years of touch and go and lots of surgery. So just because your child is healthy, you can't say you will never have the experience of watching them hurt and not be able to help them. Your child might be born with something different. My cousin's little boy was born with only one hand. You know what - he lives a very full life with lots of friends and even plays sports. I would ask yourself what else in this relationship is bothering you that makes you not want to marry him? You want a husband that will be with you through thick and thin whether you end up being unable to have kids or have 12 or adopt = not think about a 25% chance that you could possibly have a child with sickle cell. So what else about this man makes you not want to marry him?........ Nothing else dear!
  3. In all sincerity, i appreciate your comments. I have been in tears all day. I hope i'm not making a huge mistake by putting an end to this relationship. He is the nicest guy I have ever met. He has been with me through thick and thin. The issue is, from my findings, I realize dat it's not easy to manage an SC child when in crisis, the trauma of seeing them in so much pains & me not being able to help them in any way is too soul wrecking, i fear that the love may cease btw us when crisis comes. He said he would want to have only two kids with me. I would have opted for adoption but he wants biological children. I'm at a loose end. This is my third year with him.
  4. I'm 29 and he is 33, we hope to have children as soon as we settle.
  5. I broke up with my fiance because he is AC and I am AS. He has been calling me ever since telling me he is willing to go thru regardless of the situation. I really do love him but sincerely I'm scared.......
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