abitbroken; I realize dat it's not easy to manage an SC child when in crisis, the trauma of seeing them in so much pains & me not being able to help them in any way is too soul wrecking,
I am older than you. I know there is an increased risk in birth defects at my age. However, I could have a completely healthy child, too. My sister went through the ringer with her child - who was born perfectly healthy and hardly ever got much more than a winter cold - but who had an injury from doing something dumb when he was 14. It took a few years of touch and go and lots of surgery. So just because your child is healthy, you can't say you will never have the experience of watching them hurt and not be able to help them. Your child might be born with something different. My cousin's little boy was born with only one hand. You know what - he lives a very full life with lots of friends and even plays sports.
I would ask yourself what else in this relationship is bothering you that makes you not want to marry him? You want a husband that will be with you through thick and thin whether you end up being unable to have kids or have 12 or adopt = not think about a 25% chance that you could possibly have a child with sickle cell. So what else about this man makes you not want to marry him?........
Nothing else dear!