CaliSunrise

Like many here, this thread helped me get thru the pain of a breakup especially in the first 2 weeks or so. i swore i will post here if i ever reconcile with my ex. we are not officially back but he has contacted me again.

My ex boyfriend broke up with me almost 2 months ago. we have a significant age gap where I am the much older one. we have been together 3 years. we had a fight one night, and then all of a sudden he wanted to break up. i thought it was just one of those silly fights. 2 days later, i went to see him again to make sure that it's what he really wanted. and it was like my world collapsed when he said he really meant it. we have been both busy the past few months with our own new things, his job and studies and mine too. so i thought the stress got to him. since he is much younger, he doesn't have the experience to handle this level of stress. but he told me all sorts of reasons, like i am in a hurry for him to grow up, that he has given me everything and not getting enough back, etc etc. lots of crying on both sides. then that was it. i did text him up to 3 days after that but for 5 message i sent him, he will reply once and i can feel that he's keeping his distance. but as you all know, going NC is the way to go. it was so hard to do. checking my phone all the time. not eating, sleeping, crying, etc. so i started doing voice memos instead every time i feel like i wanna text or call him. and talked to friends about it. each day seemed like an eternity.

then yesterday, after 7 weeks of NC, he called me. he was at the airport about to go on a 2 week holiday. he said, he needed to hear my voice, misses me and that he is not happy without me. he said all the things that i've fantasized to hear. i should have been jumping up for joy but instead i went into self preservation mode. i focused more on his holiday rather than the relationship. but we agreed to meet when he has come back from his holidays. we'll see. we have to take it slow. the old relationship is dead and we have to start over. change things.

we all read it everywhere but it is true. that if you handle a break up gracefully and give your partner space like they asked, there's a real chance that they will come back. even though i've accepted it, his call took me by surprise coz i was on the path of moving on.

The happiest day of my life was when my ex called me to meet up and reconcile. Now 2 years later I'm right back to waiting for that call again. I'm happy for you. I hope it all works out.

I broke up with my GF for the first time years ago and I told her to go date other people and that I love her but am not in love with her ect. We stayed in contact for months and still saw each other, until one day she said we couldn't see each other anymore and that she was cutting me off and seeing another guy. All of a sudden my heart stopped and I realized what I was losing. I did a 180 and tried so hard to get her back for weeks. Then one day, I was at my wits end, sitting on a bench and I get a call, she says she will give it another try based on what I promised. We meet up and it was honestly the happiest day of my life. I finally found out what love was.

Only problem was I made a bunch of empty promises and never actually fixed myself and after a year of love and happiness came about a year of the same bs little fights and stupid antics by me. She broke it off with me not to long ago and said basically the same thing I said to her the first time. Now I'm feeling the exact same way where I left off years ago. Except this time I'm actually improving myself and taking the time and effort to try to get her back in my arms.

Moral of the story: It is very possible to get you're ex back and when you do, make sure you have fixed the issues that caused the breakup and remember how you felt the first time. The saying is very true "You don't know what you got till its gone".