So hard to keep NC. I broke down because negative thoughts kept filling my mind. Like maybe he doesn't miss me, he doesn't care, he's moved on. But knowing him, I know he cares and misses me a lot. It was the relationship that was messy. I've already taken steps to bettering myself and workout my issues because if we were to get back together, I'd want it to be for good.
So hopefully I can help anyone out there by saying NC makes us have crazy thoughts. A lot of which are not true but seems easy to believe. Don't dwell on it. I know it's hard but go do something like talk to a friend, grab ice cream, watch movies, go to the park! Be busy working or focus on your school.
For me, I know a bit of NC will make him curious about what I might be up to and how I am doing. He's always been caring towards me in that way. Especially before we dated! We were best friends. If 3 days go by, he would reach out and ask me if I was ok and was worried. He cared deeply for me in that way and it doesn't just go away. So long as I give him space and be respectful.
With that said! I'm trying to bump this forum in hopes more people would type their story.
Here's a positive story:
I knew a couple who dated through high school and college. They would keep breaking up only to come back to each other again. About 2 years ago they had so much fight that they ended things. The girl moved on to date a guy who looked exactly like her ex. I honestly couldn't believe how much her new guy looked just like her ex. Meanwhile her ex tried talking to other girls but couldn't connect with them because his ex was a huge part of his life. They practically grew up together. 6 months after the breakup, they get back together. They just bought their first house together and look so happy. They truly know in their hearts that they are meant to be. Nothing could keep them away from each other. They are currently both 26, just to give you an idea.
You are so right! NC is hard but it helps, and I feel like sometimes is easy to tell others to go no contact but when is about yourself, it´s HARD! I have been having great days and bad days, a roller coaster of feelings since my ex GF broke up with me! But I am really commited to be great, to heal and to improve because I believe She is the most amazing woman I have ever met! And I know She loves me, and now I have realized what I did wrong; I gave her for granted and I was lazy but not anymore, because you don´t know what you have until is gone!
Getting back together really does happen!
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You are so right! NC is hard but it helps, and I feel like sometimes is easy to tell others to go no contact but when is about yourself, it´s HARD! I have been having great days and bad days, a roller coaster of feelings since my ex GF broke up with me! But I am really commited to be great, to heal and to improve because I believe She is the most amazing woman I have ever met! And I know She loves me, and now I have realized what I did wrong; I gave her for granted and I was lazy but not anymore, because you don´t know what you have until is gone!
PS: I sent you a PM Raindrop22!