I have been married for over 8 years to my husband. He is getting really hard to be around... everything makes him angry. He owns a landscaping business and everything about it brings stress to our marriage. Any conversation I try and have with him makes him go off the handle. He either talks to me with an attitude or it turns into yelling. But it's not even just the business.
Anything having to do with my family makes him go off the hinge. Anytime we are with my family, he has an attitude or any time I am on the phone with one of them, he is annoyed. It is to the point where I try and make all of my personal phone calls to and from work in my car. I've even turned down going to family events because I can't enjoy myself always having to worry about his mood while we are there.
I find myself not sharing information with him because I know it will just annoy him and set him off. I don't want to hide things or purposely not share information, but I do it because it protects my own energy.
I hate to admit it, but I get excited when I get home from work and he is still out working, or if he has to work on the weekends. It gives me a break from the negative energy and I can relax a little bit. Unfortunately, I am not happy with my current job (working on looking for a new one), so when I am at work, I am unhappy, and when I am at home, I am unhappy. There is no place for me to go where I feel happy these days.
I don't want to end my marriage, necessarily, but it's getting hard being around my husband and walking on eggshells with what I tell him. We have tried counseling and that didn't get us very far. I'm just trying to think what I can do to fix this. I have shared with him that the way he talks to me isn't very nice. Sometimes he catches himself and apologizes, but it's just exhausting trying to have conversations with him anymore.
