chris9393

She states she cant remember what the calls were about in total there were 4 calls and possibly more deleted texts one call was after we had officially got together I have now been with her about 3-4 years but often find myself looking back to this with the thoughts of what if she did more? What if she called him to say like she couldn't see him anymore as she is officially with me now? She just says she doesn't remember what any call was about which is a bit weird. He once sent her a romantic penguin picture which I saw and questioned in the very beginning and she text back saying you cant be sending me things like that anymore I have got a new man apparently but I doubt that is even true as she told many pointless lies to hide things and sound 'cool' in the beginning. He was a much older man with cancer which I can appreciate but I don't understand why she continued to text her ex and the person she cheated on him with the very early stages of knowing me before we were officially together but we were spending all our free time together or so I thought she swears she never went round but I am not sure if I believe that in all honesty. Also when he was about to die he text her saying call me when you can & she went to say her goodbyes at the hospital which I wouldn't of had a problem with but its the fact this was all done behind my back I didn't really deserve that, this was 8 months in. She's a great girlfriend nowadays but I keep looking back to the start and thinking what if it and it troubles my mind mentally at work and things she said she felt sorry for him once which were the reasons for the calls I mean they had seven years together & ended on good terms but in the very beginning its clear she wasn't over that relationship at all so I am unsure if I should leave and find someone new, the price of property and getting my own mortgage would not be an option but I do have a joint mortgage with her which we are progressing on. She's a lovely looking girl & does a lot for me but I just don't know what do a lot of the contact occurred before we were officially together but at the time she assured me she wasn't talking to anyone else etc which turned out to be a lie obviously. What would you do? I am not sure if to find a new girl and new life or stick it out and forget this for good?

Thank you all

Wondering if anyone can help I am in a 3+ year relationship with my girlfriend and have now got a house and a mortgage with her. Things were seemingly going great but recently I discovered she told a lot of lies in the beginning about her past I’m not sure how to feel about it or her anymore. She did cheat on her last partner who was an older man who unfortunately died of cancer 8 months later, she also hid the fact she went to the hospital to see him & the funeral from me in the first year of our relationship, I have only just found out. He was old enough to be her dad, I’m not sure how I feel about the age gap and the fact she has cheated before on somebody. Here’s where it gets messy she was still in contact with this old man via text & calls & the guy she cheated on him with, along with a few other men that she went on dates with in the very early stages of seeing me which I find hard to accept along with some of the choices she made which I don’t really feel comfortable with anymore, She also had four different dates with men in a very short period just before I met her via Facebook, as the guy she cheated with only used her so she was feeling needy & I think she used that as help. She says she wasn’t proud of dating an older man and didn’t want me to find out and also said that the guy she slept with immediately after was a mad moment & her relationship with older man was pretty much over at that point anyway as she hadn’t seen him in a long time but I’m not sure I believe this as she was still texting him occasionally in the early stages of seeing me. I think she also most likely had sex with the four men she dated but says she didn’t but but messages I have seen suggest she did. I feel like I don’t really know the person I thought I knew well anymore and I am kind of questioning the relationship as she didn’t seem to be over her previous relationships when we met and I find it strange that she dated somebody old enough to be her dad. She is nice looking girl and a really nice person but I feel like getting out with everything I know now as I find it weird and suspicious but the only problem is the mortgage I don’t know what to do I just don’t think I could see a future now?