Chaeryoung

I will check them out. I haven't done it yet.

Thank you very much for your answer! 🙏

You are definitely right. I lost my closest friends along the way (all of them moved to different cities and somehow the connection was lost), and now that I am back to my hometown, I am even more lonely as the city is small and have no friends. I don't know how to make friends here as social life is almost inexistent due to the fact that it is mostly a dead city. 😢

Thank you very much for your reply. Rationally speaking, I very much agree with what you said. The difficult part is given by my pessimistic perspective on things, maybe due to some sort of social pressure. Most of my friends or former friends are in relationships and I cannot prevent myself from being sad over the fact that for me things didn't work out very well in this area. Apparently, things didn't work out in many areas, haha. Thank you again.

Thank you! 🙏

I am not seeing one, but I am planning to do so for at least a couple of times (I have some savings). I will try and see what baby steps can I take. For the time being I am applying for jobs and take care of myself through exercise.

Yes. It is different when someone else is telling me this. I have been so much in my head lately, anxious, stressed out, on the verge of depression. I feel paralyzed and blocked in this state. I fear that I will permanently be miserable, I started catastrophizing. I really hope things will sort themselves out somehow.

You are so kind. Thank you a lot for taking the time to share parts of your journey. I will try to be more gentle. Yes, maintaining a positive attitude is the hardest task right now.

I (26F) have been quite unsuccessful in my romantic life. I had two serious relationships, one situationship and some failed attempts in my dating experience. I think what stresses me out the most is that in a couple of days I will become officially unemployed. I don't want to insist on external circumstances, but I also want to mention that together with my resign, I left the city I used to live in and moved back to my hometown for a couple of time. Until I find a new job and hopefully move back to the city I used to live in (which is way bigger than my current one), my dating life will understandably suffer. My hometown is tiny, way less people, and the social life is quite dead. Hopefully, by next year I will be in a better place, I don't know, but then, I have this feeling of doom that I will be 27 yo and alone. Since I was 25, an aging anxiety kicked in and followed me up to the present. I am too self-aware, actually obsessed by the idea that my body is gradually aging and is hard for me to be at peace with a natural process everybody goes through. Although I would say I am an attractive woman, I have this debilitating fear that men won't be attracted to me anymore as years go by. I also have moments when I am trying to soothe myself and try to accept the fact that maybe I won't meet someone again, someone with whom I can built something meaningful, but it is hard and depressing. I also have to sort other things out, such as learning new skills for higher paying jobs. Yeah. I guess I feel overwhelmed. Thank your for reading.

Yes, I think you are right. Thank you.

I also expect him (according to his texting habits) to text me later in the week and I don't really know how to handle such situations. Someone being inconsistent makes me very uncomfortable and I don't even know if it's worth voicing my feelings about the matter. Of course, in case he will contact me again.

These are my thoughts as well. Usually, being confused regarding another person's intentions means they are not interested. Been there before.

I would be willing and he sent me the same energy, but then again, he hasn't reached out neither yesterday, nor today. I might be really bad at texting as well because I am afraid he will answer after many hours like he used to. Also, when we met, he told me among other things that he had been in a 6 year relationship that ended a few months ago, so I am a bit worried he is not over her. I didn't ask him if he is or not, but yeah.

Yes, I like him. He seems to be a sensitive person. Yes, he suggested seeing one another next week when I have to travel to his city to solve something work-related. I used to work in that city but I resigned and for the time being I am living in my hometown. I am a bit pessimistic about things due to distance to be honest.

So we met, I showed him the city, we had lunch, we had a good time and later in the evening he took the train back. From this pov, everything was alright. He told me he had a great time and we chatted afterwards through messages.