Nothing that ANYONE says to you is EVER personal......unless YOU make it personal.
Simple answer: NEVER make it personal
And even if you feel that it is and it offends you deeply, simply disengage and walk away from that person. You don't want to be around unhealthy nor toxic
It sounds like you are talking about how to interpret potentially insulting or negative language here. I don't read the OP's question as being about that. I take the OP as being about whether to take those type of statements seriously as carrying some deeper personal meaning.
For myself, I might say "You're a sweetheart!" and mean it in a more general sense of someone being especially nice or considerate, but without deeper meaning. However, "You're my sweetheart." would be totally different and I would mean it as a reflection of a deeper personal relationship. I can't imagine saying something like "You're my love." without it being a truly significant and intimate statement. In my mind, it's just another way to phrase "I love you."
But people can vary quite a bit in how they express themselves. Like the aforementioned waitresses who call you "Hun" and of course it's nothing but a friendly greeting. "Actions speak louder than words" is a cliche for a reason, so watch for the actions to back up the words. But I don't think it would be out of line to expect that the statements listed in the OP would potentially have a deeper meaning.
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It sounds like you are talking about how to interpret potentially insulting or negative language here. I don't read the OP's question as being about that. I take the OP as being about whether to take those type of statements seriously as carrying some deeper personal meaning.
For myself, I might say "You're a sweetheart!" and mean it in a more general sense of someone being especially nice or considerate, but without deeper meaning. However, "You're my sweetheart." would be totally different and I would mean it as a reflection of a deeper personal relationship. I can't imagine saying something like "You're my love." without it being a truly significant and intimate statement. In my mind, it's just another way to phrase "I love you."
But people can vary quite a bit in how they express themselves. Like the aforementioned waitresses who call you "Hun" and of course it's nothing but a friendly greeting. "Actions speak louder than words" is a cliche for a reason, so watch for the actions to back up the words. But I don't think it would be out of line to expect that the statements listed in the OP would potentially have a deeper meaning.