Want to cut back on alcohol...how bad is my problem?

[Blue_Soul]

Hi Folks,

 

I am a 25 year old male who has been dealing with a number of different issues over the last year or so. About a year or so ago, I moved in with my elderly Grandmother to save money in an area where there aren't many people my age and hardly any outlets for meeting the few that are there. I have had lots of time to sit and brood and this has led to a lot of drinking, pretty much on a nightly basis. I'm very self-conscious, but I used to be able to get out, do things, play in bands, etc. Now, I've been growing more insular with each passing month and staying home drinking most of the time because I don't feel like dealing with all of the changes I don't feel strong enough to make.

 

So, I want to cut back. I don't really believe I am an alcoholic because I don't always feel like I NEED to drink. It's just become kind of a default that quells the desires and that I feel to weak to indulge. I think I probably need some outside help but I want to do it without family or friends knowing about it. I have a counselor but I have never been comfortable enough to admit that this might be a problem.

 

Can anyone give me some advice as to how I can get help or help myself as quietly as possible. I really don't want to deadl with a lot of people knowing that I have this problem. It would break a lot of people's hearts.

 

Any advice would be appreciated.

[sabena]

Well good for you for admitting that you do have a problem, and that's what you do have, a problem. Can you pm me where you live as I live in the UK I know of several organisations that can give you help and assistance and in total confidentiality.

[Mar]

AA is also a great support group......a lot of people say it's bs, but I've been to meetings with friends and was in a support group for another thing a number of years back. You'll also have the benefit of meeting GREAT people, this I can assure you! I would strongly suggest looking into a local AA meeting.....if you don't like it, you don't have to go back. But you don't have to speak if you don't have to, and the members are always willing to answer any questions you might have about how you're feeling, since they were at that point themselves at some time or another! Check with the local MADD chapter, of ask at the local churches if they hold meetings there....this is generally where they're held. And good luck.....you've just taken the first step in the 12 steps, which is admitting you have a problem.....see how easy THAT was? lol Any other questions, feel free to pm me.