Should I keep ignore him?

[babybees]

I dated this guy for 2 months..and the dating situation was getting dry. Meaning he seemed lost interest in me. I pretty much was the one who called him, complaining this and that to get his attention.

He normally would do something after I complained something. (I don't like this kind of attitude)

FYI: this guy is kind of a guy who doesn't tell what he actually wants. He just expected me to find out by myself from his acts.

I kept telling him that I wouldn't know what he wanted unless he told me.

 

Anyways, long story short, I told him i wanted to end the dating and just became friends only. And start ignoring him. But he knew how I really felt about him.

He texted me once and called me a few times. Leaving me missed calls but no voicemails. What the weird is he normally called,,2 rings,,then hung up, so that would leave me a missed call on my phone. I couldn't understand why he did that.

Last night, he was online and said hi to me and he asked if he could call me. I didn't answer his question about calling me, but we talked very briefly then he signed out.

 

I don't know what to do. Did he try to get my attention back? or just playing games with my feeling?

Should I keep ignoring him?

 

Pleaseee people help meee...

 

Thanks so much!

 

-babybees

[Batya33]

I disagree with your analysis. He is not the type who doesn't tell you what he wants, he simply wasn't that interested and thereforeeee there was nothing much to tell. Please don't take that personally. The complaining you did probably created more distance because typically that is a turn off for men (or women - whether in friendships or in dating).

 

Now, he is interested slightly again because you stopped complaining and walked away. If you choose to see him again you can tell him that you are not interested in continuing if he is not willing to put in at least 50% of the effort to see you, call you in advance and make plans with you. (I say at least because it sounds like you have been putting in most if not all of the effort).

 

In my personal experience - and I have dated many men - if a man is truly interested he will not leave you guessing and you will not have to nag him to get him to take you out on a date. He will call you in advance for a date he plans particularly in the early stages. He will not have to tell you "I am interested" because you will feel it and hear it loud and clear by the way he is consistent, reliable and asks you out at least once a week in the beginning.

When, in the beginning, a man stops calling me my typical reaction is not to call him and to move on. Why should he have the privilege of knowing how I feel if he cannot be bothered to get in touch with me?

[Daligal83]

I completely agree with Batya. I "dated" a guy kinda like the one you're describing. He initiated everything at first, but whenever I showed interested he backed off. But if he thought I was losing interest he'd show some interest again to keep me around. This even kept going once I told him I just wanted to be friends because he didn't want a relationship. It never got better. He kept doing the same thing. I'd call him, then not hear from him for weeks and then he'd say he missed me. The kicker was when he called me (I had given up on calling him at all) and asked me to hang out, then when we made a plan he decided to go out and do something else during that time without telling me. Guys like this are just not worth it. You deserve someone who shows interest in you and doesn't leave you hanging like that.

[HyruleGuardian]

Move on. The guy just doesn't sound interested in you. Maybe in the future you can be friends, but not in a relationship again.

[Batya33]

Move on. The guy just doesn't sound interested in you. Maybe in the future you can be friends, but not in a relationship again.

 

I wouldn't be friends with someone who did not put in effort to make plans and get together. I understand what you mean but find it interesting when it's presumed that friendship doesn't have the same standards of reliability and consistency as dating. I've "broken up" with friends who have become unreliable/unresponsive but yet call every once in awhile with an enthusiastic "let's get together!!" that has no basis in reality once you actually try to make plans.

[babybees]

Thank you everyone for the opinions. I agree with you all. I think I deserve better . He doesn't worth my time.

 

I somehow feel that he wants to be friends with benefits, eventhough he didn't say it directly to me. After I told him I just wanted us to be friends only, he'd still call me everyday and texted/IMed me once in a while. So, yeah definitely he still wants to keep me around..LOSER!

 

But anyways, every men have their own styles when it comes to the dating process. And this is the first time I experienced this kind of attitude from a man. So thanks gals!

 

-babybees