Losing Friends during/after college

[drew830]

Well basically ive been a part of a really tight group of friends since middle school, the 6 of us have been inseperable, right up till college. We all went our separate ways, and will meet up on vacations, during summer, winter etc etc. But the more time we spend at college the more it seems we drift apart. Some of my friends are doing co-ops and wont even be returning home from college for any extended period of time at all. Our crew is slowly but surely diminishing. Im not saying i cant make new friends but, every one of us shares the same interests and hobbies and ive never met people who i can get along with better. Some of my friends are even talking about moving accross the country after college to find jobs, even though they could here on the coast we are currently on. It just sucks that life is pulling us apart, they are all of them my best friends and i dont want to lose them, but things seem out of my hands now, i just dont really know what to do...

[Daligal83]

I know how you feel. I'm really close with two girls from high school, and right now they are in the same city but I'm not, and soon we'll all be in different cities. We've all had different experiences since high school and made new close friends. What you have to remember though is that nothing will replace that friendship. It's not necessarily disappearing, but changing. No it won't be like it was in high school, but they are still amazing friendships that you have. And if they do move far away, well then it's a good excuse to take a vacation My girls and I make it a point to meet up a couple times a year, maybe you guys could organize a yearly reunion.

[jengh]

Yeah, that's one of the hardest parts about growing up. I went to elementary, middle and highschool all with the same people... when everyone went their separate ways it was, and still is, so weird..

 

i think it's a normal and natural part of growing up. Of course do what you can to keep your old friends but everyone always says that the friends you make in college, not highschool, are the ones who will be friends for life. Now, sure, some people remain close with highschool friends, but overall, you drift apart.

[shikashika]

This happens to everyone.. i'm friends with maybe 2 people I went to high school with and about 3 that I went to uni with... Of those 3 I see them not even once a year.

 

Have you branched out and met new people. or kept clinging on to the past?

[cannonball]

I can tell you that the friends that I had in high school are still some of the friends that I have now, but unless you are around them quite a bit then you will not stay close. It is nice to sit and talk with your high school friends about the past, but it is your college friends that really understand you.

[Tezza]

This happened to me and my friends as well, we were so tight for about 3-4 years after high school, then one person didn't like another person, and one lived with another and then they started hating each other, and the rest we kinda all grew apart, thats life, and it happens. You will make new friends through life, just cherish the memories...